tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26436869719737888782024-03-14T04:07:30.778+07:00Ihdina Shiratal MustaqimJust a collection of words by a Muslimah to aid her in her journey, her efforts and prayers that Allah SWT may "guide us to the right path"*
<p>(*Q.S. Al-Fatihah:6)</p>Wichihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07237521698788757335noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643686971973788878.post-59415448799589531712011-06-30T16:39:00.000+07:002011-06-30T16:39:58.623+07:00Ujian dan Cobaan: Penggugur Dosa, Penambah Kebaikan<div style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Dalam hidup, kita tidak lepas dari berbagai ujian dan cobaan. Kadang ujian itu dapat kita lalui tanpa kesulitan berarti. Tapi kadang, cobaan yang kita terima sangat berat sampai rasanya kita tak sanggup menanggungnya. Pada saat seperti itu, kita mungkin merasa sebagai orang yang paling malang sedunia. Seakan-akan Allah meninggalkan kita, membiarkan kita terbenam dalam kesulitan.</div><div style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Namun, Rasulullah saw. bersabda:</div><div style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Barangsiapa dikehendaki Allah kebaikan baginya maka dia diuji (dicoba dengan suatu musibah).</em> (HR. Bukhari).</div><div style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Apabila Allah menyenangi hamba maka dia diuji agar Allah mendengar permohonannya (kerendahan dirinya).</em> (HR. Al-Baihaqi).</div><div style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Tiada seorang mukmin ditimpa rasa sakit, kelelahan (kepayahan), diserang penyakit atau kesedihan (kesusahan) sampai pun duri yang menusuk (tubuhnya) kecuali dengan itu Allah menghapus dosa-dosanya.</em> (HR. Bukhari).</div><div style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Tiada seorang muslim tertusuk duri atau yang lebih dari itu, kecuali Allah mencatat baginya kebaikan dan menghapus darinya dosa.</em> (HR. Bukhari).</div><div style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Cobaan atau kesulitan terkecil pun, ketika kita menerimanya dengan ikhlas, maka berguguran dosa-dosa kita lagi bertambah kebaikan kita. Berlawanan dengan apa yang kadang terlintas di pikiran kita, ujian dan cobaan justru merupakan bentuk kasih sayang Allah swt. kepada kita. Ketika mendapat ujian, kita juga mendapat kesempatan untuk mendekatkan diri dan menaikkan derajat kita di hadapan Allah swt. Semakin berat cobaan kita, semakin besar pula kebaikan yang akan kita terima ketika berhasil melaluinya.</div><div style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Rasulullah saw. bersabda:</div><div style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Besarnya pahala sesuai dengan besarnya ujian dan cobaan. Sesungguhnya Allah ‘Azza wajalla bila menyenangi suatu kaum Allah menguji mereka. Barangsiapa bersabar maka baginya manfaat kesabarannya dan barangsiapa murka maka baginya murka Allah.</em> (HR. Tirmidzi).</div><div style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Sa’ad bin Abi Waqqash berkata, “Aku bertanya kepada Rasulullah Saw, ‘Ya Rasulullah, siapakah orang yang paling berat ujian dan cobaannya?’” Nabi Saw menjawab, “Para nabi kemudian yang meniru (menyerupai) mereka dan yang meniru (menyerupai) mereka. Seseorang diuji menurut kadar agamanya. Kalau agamanya tipis (lemah) dia diuji sesuai dengan itu (ringan) dan bila imannya kokoh dia diuji sesuai itu (keras). Seorang diuji terus-menerus sehingga dia berjalan di muka bumi bersih dari dosa-dosa. </em>(HR. Bukhari).</div><div style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Ujian dan cobaan juga merupakan cara Allah swt. untuk menutupi kekurangan amal kita, menempa kita menjadi diri yang lebih baik, serta meletakkan kita pada posisi yang lebih baik, di dunia dan akhirat. Seperti yang disabdakan oleh Rasulullah saw.:</div><div style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Seorang hamba memiliki suatu derajat di surga. Ketika dia tidak dapat mencapainya dengan amal-amal kebaikannya maka Allah menguji dan mencobanya agar dia mencapai derajat itu</em>. (HR. Ath-Thabrani).</div><div style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Apabila Aku menguji hambaKu dengan membutakan kedua matanya dan dia bersabar maka Aku ganti kedua matanya dengan surga.</em> (HR. Ahmad).</div><div style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Allah menguji hamba-Nya dengan menimpakan musibah sebagaimana seorang menguji kemurnian emas dengan api (pembakaran). Ada yang ke luar emas murni. Itulah yang dilindungi Allah dari keragu-raguan. Ada juga yang kurang dari itu (mutunya) dan itulah yang selalu ragu. Ada yang ke luar seperti emas hitam dan itu yang memang ditimpa fitnah (musibah).</em> (HR. Ath-Thabrani).</div><div style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Al-Qur’an surat Al-Baqarah ayat 286 menyebutkan bahwa “<em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Allah tidak membebani seseorang melainkan sesuai dengan kesanggupannya…”</em>. Maka seberat apapun ujian yang kita terima, kita pasti mampu melewatinya. Hanya saja, terkadang kita tidak menyadari sekuat apa diri kita, sebesar apa potensi dalam diri kita. Allah lebih mengetahui kemampuan kita, dan Dia bersama kita dalam setiap kesulitan, juga menjanjikan adanya kemudahan setelah setiap kesulitan, jika kita tidak menyerah menghadapinya. Memohonlah kepada-Nya dan bersabarlah, niscaya rahmat, berkah, dan keselamatan akan kita dapatkan.</div><div style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Karena sesungguhnya sesudah kesulitan itu ada kemudahan. Sesungguhnya sesudah kesulitan itu ada kemudahan.</em> (QS. Al-Insyirah: 6).</div><div style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Barangsiapa diuji lalu bersabar, diberi lalu bersyukur, dizalimi lalu memaafkan dan menzalimi lalu beristighfar maka bagi mereka keselamatan dan mereka tergolong orang-orang yang memperoleh hidayah.</em> (HR. Al-Baihaqi).</div><div style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Dan sungguh akan Kami berikan cobaan kepadamu, dengan sedikit ketakutan, kelaparan, kekurangan harta, jiwa dan buah-buahan. Dan berikanlah berita gembira kepada orang-orang yang sabar. (Yaitu) orang-orang yang apabila ditimpa musibah, mereka mengucapkan: “Inna lillaahi wa innaa ilaihi raaji’uun” . Mereka itulah yang mendapat keberkatan yang sempurna dan rahmat dari Tuhan mereka dan mereka itulah orang-orang yang mendapat petunjuk.</em> (QS. Al-Baqarah: 155-157)</div><div style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><br />
</div><div style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Source: <a href="http://www.alifmagz.com/ujian-dan-cobaan-penggugur-dosa-penambah-kebaikan/">Alif Magazine</a></div>Wichihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07237521698788757335noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643686971973788878.post-7444069992217071092010-11-04T07:00:00.000+07:002010-11-04T07:00:00.206+07:00Lauren Booth explains why she fell in love with Islam<div class="MsoNormal"><b>LAUREN Booth, a broadcaster, journalist and sister-in-law of former British Prime Minister Tony Blair, defiantly explains her conversion to Islam.</b></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">"It is the most peculiar journey of my life. The carriage is warm and my fellow passengers unexpectedly welcoming. We are progressing rapidly and without delay. Rain, snow, rail unions, these things make no difference to the forward rush.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Yet I have no idea how I came to be on board nor, stranger still, quite where the train is heading, apart from this: the destination, wherever it might be, is the most important place I can imagine.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I know this all seems gloriously far-fetched, but really it is how I feel about my conversion, announced last week, to Islam.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Although the means and mechanisms that brought me to this point remain mysterious, the decision will determine every aspect of my life to come as firmly as the twin rails beneath that exhilarating express.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Asked for a simple explanation of how I, an English hack journalist, a single working mother, signed up to the Western media’s least-favourite religion, I suppose I would point to an intensely spiritual experience in an Iranian mosque just over a month ago.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">But it makes more sense to go back to January 2005, when I arrived alone in the West Bank to cover the elections there for The Mail on Sunday. It is safe to say that before that visit I had never spent any time with Arabs, or Muslims.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">The whole experience was a shock, but not for the reasons I might have expected. So much of what we know about this part of the world and the people who follow Mohammed the Prophet is based on disturbing - some would say biased - news bulletins.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">So, as I flew towards the Middle East, my mind was full of the usual 10pm buzz words: radical extremists, fanatics, forced marriages, suicide bombers and jihad. Not much of a travel brochure.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">My very first experience, though, could hardly have been more positive. I had arrived on the West Bank without a coat, as the Israeli airport authorities had kept my suitcase.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Walking around the centre of Ramallah, I was shivering, whereupon an old lady grabbed my hand.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Talking rapidly in Arabic, she took me into a house on a side street. Was I being kidnapped by a rather elderly terrorist? For several confusing minutes I watched her going through her daughter’s wardrobe until she pulled out a coat, a hat and a scarf.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I was then taken back to the street where I had been walking, given a kiss and sent warmly on my way. There had been not a single comprehensible word exchanged between us.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><b>Warmth of spirit</b></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">It was an act of generosity I have never forgotten, and one which, in various guises, I have seen repeated a hundred times. Yet this warmth of spirit is so rarely represented in what we read and see in the news.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Over the course of the next three years I made numerous journeys to the occupied lands which were once historic Palestine. At first I went on assignments; as time went by, I started travelling in solidarity with charities and pro-Palestinian groups.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I felt challenged by the hardships suffered by Palestinians of all creeds. It is important to remember there have been Christians in the Holy Land for 2000 years and that they too are suffering under Israel’s illegal occupation.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Gradually I found expressions such as ‘Mashallah!’ (a phrase of gratitude meaning ‘God has willed it’) and ‘Al Hamd illilah!’ (akin to ‘Halle lujah’) creeping into my everyday speech. These are exclamations of delight derived from the 100 names of God, or Allah. Far from being nervous of Muslim groups, I started looking forward to meeting them. It was an opportunity to be with people of intelligence, wit and, above all else, kindness and generosity.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I’m going to take a break here to pray for 10 minutes as it’s 1.30pm. (There are five prayers each day, the times varying throughout the year depending on the rising and setting of the sun.)</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I was in no doubt that I had embarked on a change of political understanding, one in which Palestinians became families rather than terror suspects, and Muslim cities communities rather than ‘collateral damage’.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">But a religious journey? This would never have occurred to me. Although I have always liked to pray and, since childhood, have enjoyed the stories of Jesus and the more ancient prophets that I had picked up at school and at the Brownies, I was brought up in a very secular household.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><b>Bold Muslim women</b></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">It was probably an appreciation of Muslim culture, in partic ular that of Muslim women, that first drew me towards a broader appreciation of Islam.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">How strange Muslim women seem to English eyes, all covered up from head to toe, sometimes walking behind their husbands (although this is far from universally the case), with their children around their long skirts.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">By contrast, professional women in Europe are happy to make the most of their appearance. I, for example, have always been proud of my lovely blonde hair and, yes, my cleavage.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">It was common working practice to have this on display at all times because so much of what we sell these days has to do with our appearance.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Yet whenever I have been invited to broadcast on television, I have sat watching in wonder as the female presenters spend up to an hour on their hair and make- up, before giving the serious topics under discussion less than 15 minutes’ attention. Is this liber ation? I began to wonder just how much true respect girls and women get in our ‘free’ society.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">In 2007 I went to Lebanon. I spent four days with female university students, all of whom wore the full hijab: belted shirts over dark trousers or jeans, with no hair on show. They were charming, independent and outspoken company. They were not at all the timid, soon-to-be-forced-into-<wbr></wbr>marriage girls I would have imagined from what we often read in the West.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">At one point they accompanied me to interview a sheikh who was also a commander with the Hezbollah militia. I was pleasantly surprised by his attitude to the girls. As Sheikh Nabil, in turban and brown flowing robes, talked intriguingly of a prisoner swap, they started butting in. They felt free to talk over him, to put a hand up for him to pause while they translated.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">In fact, the bossiness of Muslim women is something of a joke that rings true in so many homes in the community. You want to see men under the thumb? Look at many Muslim husbands more than other kinds.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Indeed, just yesterday, the Grand Mufti of Bosnia rang me and only half-jokingly introduced himself as ‘my wife’s husband’.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Something else was changing, too. The more time I spent in the Middle East, the more I asked to be taken into mosques. Just for touristy reasons, I told myself. In fact I found them fascinating.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><b>Mosques 'fascinating'</b></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Free of statues and with rugs instead of pews, I saw them rather like a big sitting room where children play, women feed their families pitta bread and milk and grandmothers sit and read the Koran in wheelchairs. They take their lives into their place of worship and bring their worship into their homes.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Then came the night in the Iran ian city of Qom, beneath the golden dome of the shrine of Fatima Mesumah (the revered ‘Learned Lady’). Like the other women pilgrims, I said Allah’s name several times while holding on to the bars of Fatima’s tomb.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">When I sat down, a pulse of sheer spiritual joy shot through me. Not the joy that lifts you off the ground, but the joy that gives you complete peace and contentment. I sat for a long time. Young women gathered around me talking of the ‘amazing thing happening to you’.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I knew then I was no longer a tourist in Islam but a traveller inside the Ummah, the community of Islam that links all believers.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">At first I wanted the feeling to go, and for several reasons. Was I ready to convert? What on earth would friends and family think? Was I ready to moderate my behaviour in many ways?</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">And here’s the really strange thing. I needn’t have worried about any of these things, because somehow becoming a Muslim is really easy – although the prac ticalities are a very different matter, of course.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">For a start, Islam demands a great deal of study, yet I am mother to two children and work full-time. You are expected to read the Koran from beginning to end, plus the thoughts and findings of imams and all manner of spiritually enlightened people. Most people would spend months, if not years of study before making their declaration.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">People ask me how much of the Koran I’ve read, and my answer is that I’ve only covered 100 pages or so to date, and in translation. But before anyone sneers, the verses of the Koran should be read ten lines at a time, and they should be recited, considered and, if possible, committed to memory. It’s not like OK! magazine.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">This is a serious text that I am going to know for life. It would help to learn Arabic and I would like to, but that will also take time.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I have a relationship with a couple of mosques in North London, and I am hoping to make a routine of going at least once a week. I would never say, by the way, whether I will take a Sunni or a Shia path. For me, there is one Islam and one Allah.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Adopting modest dress, however, is rather less troublesome than you might think. Wearing a headscarf means I’m ready to go out more quickly than before. I was blushing the first time I wore it loosely over my hair just a few weeks ago.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Luckily it was cold outside, so few people paid attention. Going out in the sunshine was more of a challenge, but this is a tolerant country and no one has looked askance so far.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">A veil, by the way, is not for me, let alone something more substantial like a burka. I’m making no criticism of women who choose that level of modesty. But Islam has no expectation that I will adopt a more severe form of dress.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Predictably, some areas of the Press have had a field day with my conversion, unleashing a torrent of abuse that is not really aimed at me but a false idea of Islam.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">But I have ignored the more negative comments. Some people don’t understand spirituality and any discussion of it makes them frightened. It raises awkward questions about the meaning of their own lives and they lash out.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">One of my concerns is professional. It is easy to get pigeonholed, particularly if I continue to wear a headscarf. In fact, based on the experience of other female converts, I’m wondering if I will be treated as though I have lost my mind.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I’ve been political all my life, and that will continue. I’ve been involved in pro-Palestinian activism for a number of years, and don’t expect to stop. Yet Britain is a more tolerant country than, say, France or Germany.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I’m well aware that there are plenty of Muslim women who have great success on television and in the Press, and wear modest but decidedly Western dress.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">This is hardly a choice for me, though. I am a newcomer, still getting to grips with the basic tenets. My relationship with Islam is different. I am in no position to say that some bits of my new-found faith suit me and that some bits I’ll ignore.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">There is a more profound uncertainty about the future, too. I feel changes going on in me every day – that I’m becoming a different person. I wonder where that will end up. Who will I be?</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I am fortunate in that my most important relationships remain strong. The reaction from my non-Muslim friends has been more curious than hostile. "Will it change you?" they ask. "Can we still be your friend? Can we go out drinking?"</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">The answer to the first two of those questions is yes. The last is a big happy no.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">As for my mother, I think she is happy if I’m happy. And if, coming from a background of my father’s alcoholism, I’m going to avoid the stuff, then what could be better?</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><b>Alcoholic household</b></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Growing up in an alcoholic household with a dad who was violent, has left a great gap in my life. It is a wound that will never heal and his remarks about me are very hurtful.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">We haven’t seen each other for years, so how can he know anything about me or have any valid views about my conversion? I just feel sorry for him. The rest of my family is very supportive.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">My mum and I had a difficult relationship when I was growing up, but we have built bridges and she’s a great support to me and the girls.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">When I told her I had converted, she did say: "Not to those nutters. I thought you said Buddhism!" But she understand now and accepts it.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">And, as it happens, giving up alcohol was a breeze. In fact I can’t imagine tasting alcohol ever again. I simply don’t want to.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">This is not the time for me to be thinking about relationships with men, either. I’m recovering from the breakdown of my marriage and am now going through a divorce.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">So I’m not looking and am under no pressure to look.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">If, when the time came, I did consider remarrying, then, in accordance with my adopted faith, the husband would need to be Muslim.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I’m asked: "Will my daughters be Muslim?" I don’t know, that is up to them. You can’t change someone’s heart. But they’re certainly not hostile and their reaction to my surprising conversion was perhaps the most telling of all.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I sat in the kitchen and called them in. "Girls, I have some news for you," I began. "I am now a Muslim." They went into a huddle, with the eldest, Alex, saying: "We have some questions, we’ll be right back."</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">They made a list and returned. Alex cleared her throat. "Will you drink alcohol any more?"</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Answer: No. The response - a rather worrying "Yay!"</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">"Will you smoke cigarettes any more?" Smoking isn’t haram (for bidden) but it is harmful, so I answered: "No."</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Again, this was met with puritanical approval. Their final question, though, took me aback. "‘Will you have your breasts out in public now you are a Muslim?"</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">What??</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">It seems they’d both been embarrassed by my plunging shirts and tops and had cringed on the school run at my pallid cleavage. Perhaps in hindsight I should have cringed as well.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">"Now that I’m Muslim," I said, "I will never have my breasts out in public again."</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">"We love Islam!" they cheered and went off to play. And I love Islam too."</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Lauren Booth, 43, the sixth daughter of actor Tony Booth, now works for Press TV, the English-language news channel of the Islamic Republic of Iran</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Source: forwarded email </div>Wichihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07237521698788757335noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643686971973788878.post-22933325300745691162010-11-03T07:59:00.000+07:002010-11-03T08:00:48.807+07:00Tentang Qurban<blockquote><i><span class="prevDetail">Menyambut Hari Raya Idul Adha, mari kita perkaya pengetahuan kita tentang salah satu ibadah utama saat Idul Adha yaitu berkurban. :)</span></i></blockquote><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://img525.imageshack.us/img525/4876/farmclipartanimalsnp9.bmp" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://img525.imageshack.us/img525/4876/farmclipartanimalsnp9.bmp" /></a></div><span class="prevDetail">Katakanlah: sesungguhnya sembahyangku, ibadatku, hidupku dan matiku hanyalah untuk Allah, Tuhan semesta alam. (QS.6:162)</span><br />
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Dalam istilah ilmu fiqih hewan qurban biasa disebut dengan nama <em>Al Udh-hiyah.</em> Udh-hiyah adalah hewan ternak yang disembelih pada hari Iedul Adha dan hari Tasyriq dalam rangka mendekatkan diri kepada Allah karena datangnya hari raya tersebut (lihat Al Wajiz, 405 dan Shahih Fiqih Sunnah II/366)<br />
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<strong>Keutamaan Qurban</strong> <br />
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Dari Aisyah r.a. Rasulullah s.a.w. bersabda:"Amal yang paling disukai Allah pada hari penyembelihan adalah mengalirkan darah hewan qurban, sesungguhnya hewan yang diqurbankan akan datang (dengan kebaikan untuk yang melakukan qurban) di hari kiamat kelak dengan tanduk-tanduknya, bulu dan tulang-tulangnya, sesunguhnya (pahala) dari darah hewan qurban telah datang dari Allah sebelum jatuh ke bumi, maka lakukanlah kebaikan ini".(H.R. Tirmidzi).<br />
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Hadist Ibnu Abbas Rasulullah bersabda<em>:"Tiada sedekah uang yang lebih mulia dari yang dibelanjakan untuk qurban di hari raya Adha</em>"(H.R. DaruQutni).<br />
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<strong>Menyembelih qurban termasuk amal salih yang paling utama.</strong> <br />
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Ibunda ‘Aisyah radhiyallahu‘anha menceritakan bahwa Nabi shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam bersabda, <em>“Tidaklah anak Adam melakukan suatu amalan pada hari Nahr (Iedul Adha) yang lebih dicintai oleh Allah melebihi mengalirkan darah (qurban), maka hendaknya kalian merasa senang karenanya.” </em>(HR. Tirmidzi, Ibnu Majah dan Al Hakim dengan sanad shohih. Lihat Taudhihul Ahkam, IV/450)<br />
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Banyak ulama menjelaskan bahwa menyembelih hewan qurban pada hari idul Adha lebih utama daripada sedekah yang senilai dengan harga hewan qurban atau bahkan sedekah yang lebih banyak dari pada nilai hewan qurban. Karena maksud terpenting dalam berqurban adalah mendekatkan diri kepada Allah. Di samping itu, menyembelih qurban lebih menampakkan syi’ar islam dan lebih sesuai dengan sunnah. (Lihat Shahih Fiqh Sunnah 2/379 & Syarhul Mumthi’ 7/521)<br />
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<strong>Hukum Qurban</strong><br />
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Dalam hal ini para ulama terbagi dalam dua pendapat. Ada yang mengatakan hukumnya wajib bagi orang yang berkecukupan dan ada pula yang mengatakan hukumnya sunnah mu’akkad (ditekankan). Sebagian ulama memberikan jalan keluar dari perselisihan ini dengan menasehatkan, “…selayaknya bagi mereka yang mampu, tidak meninggalkan berqurban. Karena dengan berqurban akan lebih menenangkan hati dan melepaskan tanggungan, wallahu a’lam.” (Tafsir Adwa’ul bayan, 1120).<br />
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Yakinlah…! bagi mereka yang berqurban, Allah akan segera memberikan ganti biaya qurban yang dia keluarkan. Karena setiap pagi Allah mengutus dua malaikat, yang satu berdo’a: “Yaa Allah, berikanlah ganti bagi orang yang berinfaq.” Dan yang kedua berdo’a: “Yaa Allah, berikanlah kehancuran bagi orang yang menahan hartanya (pelit).” (HR. Bukhari 1374 & Muslim 1010).<br />
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<strong>Hewan Yang Boleh Digunakan Untuk Qurban</strong><br />
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Hewan qurban hanya boleh dari kalangan Bahiimatul Al An’aam (hewan ternak tertentu) yang terdiri dari onta, sapi atau kambing dan tidak boleh selain itu. Bahkan sekelompok ulama menukilkan adanya ijma’ kesepakatan) bahwasanya qurban tidak sah kecuali dengan hewan-hewan tersebut (lihat Shahih Fiqih Sunnah, II/369 dan Al Wajiz 406)<br />
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<strong>Seekor Kambing Untuk Satu Keluarga</strong><br />
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Seekor kambing cukup untuk qurban satu keluarga, dan pahalanya mencakup seluruh anggota keluarga meskipun jumlahnya banyak atau bahkan yang sudah meninggal dunia. Sebagaimana hadits Abu Ayyub radhiyallahu’anhu yang mengatakan, <em>”Pada masa Rasulullah shallallahu ’alaihi wa sallam seseorang (suami) menyembelih seekor kambing sebagai qurban bagi dirinya dan keluarganya.” </em>(HR. Tirmidzi dan beliau menilainya shahih. Lihat Minhaajul Muslim, 264 dan 266).<br />
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Oleh karena itu, tidak selayaknya seseorang mengkhususkan qurban untuk salah satu anggota keluarganya tertentu, misalnya kambing 1 untuk anak si A, kambing 2 untuk anak si B… karunia dan kemurahan Allah sangat luas maka tidak perlu dibatasi.<br />
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Bahkan Nabi shallallahu ’alaihi wa sallam berqurban untuk dirinya dan seluruh umatnya. Suatu ketika beliau hendak menyembelih kambing qurban. Sebelum menyembelih beliau mengatakan, “Yaa Allah ini – qurban – dariku dan dari umatku yang tidak berqurban.” (HR. Abu Daud 2810 & Al Hakim 4/229 dan dishahihkan Syaikh Al Albani dalam Al Irwa’ 4/349). <br />
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Berdasarkan hadits ini, Syaikh Ali bin Hasan Al Halaby mengatakan, “Kaum muslimin yang tidak mampu berqurban, mendapatkan pahala sebagaimana orang berqurban dari umat Nabi shallallahu ’alaihi wa sallam.”<br />
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Adapun yang dimaksud: “…kambing hanya boleh untuk satu orang, sapi untuk tujuh orang, dan onta 10 orang…” maksudnya adalah biaya pengadaannya. Biaya pengadaan kambing hanya boleh dari satu orang, biaya pengadaan sapi hanya boleh dari maksimal tujuh orang, dst.<br />
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<strong>Ketentuan Untuk Sapi & Onta</strong><br />
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Seekor sapi dijadikan qurban untuk 7 orang. Sedangkan seekor onta untuk 10 orang. Dari Ibnu Abbas radhiyallahu’anhu beliau mengatakan, ”Dahulu kami penah bersafar bersama Rasulullah shallallahu ’alaihi wa sallam lalu tibalah hari raya Iedul Adha maka kami pun berserikat sepuluh orang untuk qurban seekor onta. Sedangkan untuk seekor sapi kami berserikat sebanyak tujuh orang.” (Shahih Sunan Ibnu Majah 2536, Al Wajiz, hal. 406).<br />
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Dalam masalah pahala, ketentuan qurban sapi sama dengan ketentuan qurban kambing. Artinya urunan 7 orang untuk qurban seekor sapi, pahalanya mencakup seluruh anggota keluarga dari 7 orang yang ikut urunan.<br />
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Wallahu a’lam.<br />
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Sumber:<a href="http://www.percikaniman.org/detail_artikel.php?cPub=Hits&cID=588"> http://www.percikaniman.org/detail_artikel.php?cPub=Hits&cID=588</a>Wichihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07237521698788757335noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643686971973788878.post-66977722678394405812010-10-13T11:43:00.004+07:002010-10-13T12:10:26.465+07:00The Scimitar and the Veil: Extraordinary Women of Islam<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="3"><tbody>
<tr><td class="bibInfoLabel" valign="top" width="20%">Author</td> <td class="bibInfoData"><a href="http://library.uq.edu.au/search%7ES7?/aHeath%2C+Jennifer./aheath+jennifer/-3,-1,0,B/browse">Heath, Jennifer.</a> </td></tr>
<tr> <td class="bibInfoLabel" valign="top" width="20%">Title</td> <td class="bibInfoData"><b>The scimitar and the veil : extraordinary women of Islam / Jennifer Heath.</b></td></tr>
<tr> <td class="bibInfoLabel" valign="top" width="20%">Publisher</td> <td class="bibInfoData">Mahwah, N.J. : Hidden Spring, c2004.</td></tr>
</tbody> </table>I. "Paradise lies at the feet of the mothers" : in the beginning : women of the prophetate -- II. "That does not come from you, but from her behind the curtain" : scholars of the Hadith -- III. "Be like wax and illumine the world. Be like a needle and work naked" : ascetics, saints, and mystics -- IV. "If you do not fall in battle, someone is saving you as a token of shame" : warriors and amazons -- V. "Drink from this cup, then be gracious to her who sent it by paying a visit after sunset" : rebels and concubines -- VI. "Listening stirs the heart to see god" : musicians and dancers -- VII. "We have left the account for the day of accountings" : rulers, regents, queen mothers, and philanthropists -- VIII. "To educate a woman is to educate the whole world ..." : tradeswomen and learned ladies -- IX. "Enjoy life! Who cares what people say?" : poets -- The five pillars of Islam.<br />
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The Scimitar and the Veil is a book written to introduce, and perhaps improve the perceptions of Western people on Muslim women. It accounts very comprehensively the history of famous or at least recorded Muslim women from the first woman to become a Muslim (Khadijah bint Khuwaylid RA) to queens, poets and tradeswomen of the 19th century.<br />
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So it is a very comprehensive book, around 465 pages.. and took me 2 months to finish reading it. And what do I think about it?<br />
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Well, the author has really gone to great lengths to research and write on these remarkable Muslim women. I became very engaged in the beginning, in the first section on the first Muslim women, those whose lives are personally touched by the physical presence of Prophet Muhammad SAW. How lucky they are to know him personally.. and to be loved by him! I've read before their stories, especially Prophet Muhammad SAW's wives or <i>Ummul Mu'minin</i>, such as Khadijah bint Khuwaylid RA and Aisyah bint Abu Bakr RA, but I was never able to really engage with it. I guess the stories or books I read were more of a historical account. What is different about this book is that it is (sometimes overly) romanticised. It actually portrayed the personal feelings of these women. Like how Khadijah RA dreamed of Muhammad SAW. It was told in this book that she went up to the roof of her house to get some air, then she watched a group of traders walked past and saw that Muhammad SAW was shining. It accounted, with dialogue, how anxious she was after she proposed to Muhammad SAW. And the part about Aisyah RA were also documented in such a way that I could actually feel what she was feeling and really could imagine what she is like. So it wasn't like reading a textbook (I used to feel this way when reading the previous books on <i>Ummul Mu'minin</i>).<br />
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Although, I'm sure a lot of people, particularly Muslim, would object that such great women are portrayed in this way. I mean who really knows for sure that Khadijah actually said or thought, or what the other Ummul Mu'minin thought in their hearts. So I think some of the dialogues are made up, just to spice up the story.. but I love it! I imagine too that those reading this book, especially women, would want a romantic story rather than a textbook-like account.<br />
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Other extraordinary women that were portrayed were scholars, warriors, queens, rulers, queen-mothers, tradeswomen, mystics, etc.. but mostly it really showed its "girl power" promise through the accounts of women warriors and rulers. I think the author is trying to say that "girls can really rawk" by going to war and even ruling a whole kingdom and be in power over men. Well, okay. I'm not really into this part. I don't like any accounts of war of violence, especially when women are involved. As for women leaders, well, surprisingly, I'm not into that either. I am totally into girl power, but I believe sometimes women and men have their place, naturally.<br />
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I'm not saying I oppose of women leaders and warriors. Just not interested. I am more interested in women who tend to their family more, and do it in piety of Allah and really happy doing it. Now <i>that's</i> girl power. ;)<br />
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I'm also not able to engage with chapters III, V and VI on saints/mystics, rebels/concubines and musicians/dancers respectively. Chapter III told about Muslim women ascetics or mystics, or in Islam we call them <i>Sufi</i>. Personally, I don't really approve of Sufism or those who submit to Islam in such a way they ignore other people or the environment around them. As if the only thing matters is <i>their</i> relationship to Allah SWT. Islam, in my view, is a very communal and social religion. That is why it is so comprehensive. So this chapter tells Muslim women, who, through their constant devotion in praying, crying, loving Allah SWT were able to perform miracles. Hmm.. really? I'm a bit skeptic on this.<br />
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The chapter on rebels and concubines also didn't appeal to me. Who likes the word "rebel" and "concubine" and have them associated with Muslim woman? Not me. Especially how they stated that Prophet Muhammad SAW had a concubine who was a Christian, Maria al-Qibtiyyah. If concubine here means it is a "<a href="http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/CONCUBINE">secondary wife</a>", then fine. But if it means a woman who is not legally married to him, but cohabits with him.. then I'm a bit concerned. The concubines that were portrayed here were those "<span id="hotword"><a href="http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/CONCUBINE"><span id="hotword" name="hotword" onclick="this.style.backgroundColor='#b5d5ff';return hotWord(this);" onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='transparent'" onmouseover="this.style.cursor='default'" style="background-color: transparent; cursor: default;">residing</span> <span id="hotword" name="hotword" onclick="this.style.backgroundColor='#b5d5ff';return hotWord(this);" onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='transparent'" onmouseover="this.style.cursor='default'">in</span> <span id="hotword" name="hotword" onclick="this.style.backgroundColor='#b5d5ff';return hotWord(this);" onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='transparent'" onmouseover="this.style.cursor='default'">a</span> <span id="hotword" name="hotword" onclick="this.style.backgroundColor='#b5d5ff';return hotWord(this);" onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='transparent'" onmouseover="this.style.cursor='default'">harem</span> <span id="hotword" name="hotword" onclick="this.style.backgroundColor='#b5d5ff';return hotWord(this);" onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='transparent'" onmouseover="this.style.cursor='default'">and</span> <span id="hotword" name="hotword" onclick="this.style.backgroundColor='#b5d5ff';return hotWord(this);" onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='transparent'" onmouseover="this.style.cursor='default'">kept,</span> <span id="hotword" name="hotword" onclick="this.style.backgroundColor='#b5d5ff';return hotWord(this);" onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='transparent'" onmouseover="this.style.cursor='default'">as</span> <span id="hotword" name="hotword" onclick="this.style.backgroundColor='#b5d5ff';return hotWord(this);" onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='transparent'" onmouseover="this.style.cursor='default'">by</span> <span id="hotword" name="hotword" onclick="this.style.backgroundColor='#b5d5ff';return hotWord(this);" onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='transparent'" onmouseover="this.style.cursor='default'">a</span><span id="hotword" name="hotword" onclick="this.style.backgroundColor='#b5d5ff';return hotWord(this);" onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='transparent'" onmouseover="this.style.cursor='default'"> sultan,</span> <span id="hotword" name="hotword" onclick="this.style.backgroundColor='#b5d5ff';return hotWord(this);" onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='transparent'" onmouseover="this.style.cursor='default'">for</span> <span id="hotword" name="hotword" onclick="this.style.backgroundColor='#b5d5ff';return hotWord(this);" onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='transparent'" onmouseover="this.style.cursor='default'">sexual</span> purposes</a><span id="hotword" name="hotword" onclick="this.style.backgroundColor='#b5d5ff';return hotWord(this);" onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='transparent'" onmouseover="this.style.cursor='default'" style="background-color: transparent; cursor: default;">". <i>*sigh*</i> Are men allowed to do this? And they are sultan, too! Those with high power. Isn't this <i>zina</i>? Although it is interesting to read about the politics going on in the harem with these concubines, I am a bit upset how it is connected to Islam with its strict sanction of zina. The next chapter on musicians and dancers also gave me a similar feeling with the previous chapter, as musicians and dancers are mostly associated with concubines who had these talents to be presented to please her master or sultan.</span></span><br />
<span id="hotword"><span id="hotword" name="hotword" onclick="this.style.backgroundColor='#b5d5ff';return hotWord(this);" onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='transparent'" onmouseover="this.style.cursor='default'" style="background-color: transparent; cursor: default;"><br />
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<span id="hotword"><span id="hotword" name="hotword" onclick="this.style.backgroundColor='#b5d5ff';return hotWord(this);" onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='transparent'" onmouseover="this.style.cursor='default'" style="background-color: transparent; cursor: default;">To be honest, the only chapter I thoroughly enjoyed was the first one. Towards the end it got boring for me, since it was too long and maybe I just got bored, so I started skipping pages, stories, and sometimes a whole chapter. The last chapter I didn't even bother to read. But I was able to read the part of how the person responsible for trades in Aceh and Gresik are women! I think that's the only time Southeast Asian women were mentioned. Which was sad, Cut Nyak Dien or RA Kartini should have had their places in this book. Most women portrayed originated from the Middle East, Africa or East Asia. Which got me thinking, if a similar book were to be written on Muslim women 20th century onwards..would Indonesia have gained more portion? After all, we are the largest Muslim country in the world...<br />
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<span id="hotword"><span id="hotword" name="hotword" onclick="this.style.backgroundColor='#b5d5ff';return hotWord(this);" onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='transparent'" onmouseover="this.style.cursor='default'" style="background-color: transparent; cursor: default;">Nevertheless, although there were some points I didn't agree on, I do agree this book is quite a treasure. Those wanting to learn about real Muslim women in history should read this book, especially women. Though I don't recommend it to men.. they might get boring reading the romanticised parts and may get the wrong ideas on the parts about concubines, polygamy, etc.</span></span><br />
<span id="hotword"><span id="hotword" name="hotword" onclick="this.style.backgroundColor='#b5d5ff';return hotWord(this);" onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='transparent'" onmouseover="this.style.cursor='default'" style="background-color: transparent; cursor: default;"><br />
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<span id="hotword"><span id="hotword" name="hotword" onclick="this.style.backgroundColor='#b5d5ff';return hotWord(this);" onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='transparent'" onmouseover="this.style.cursor='default'" style="background-color: transparent; cursor: default;">And I would just like to clarify some points that could be misleading Islam in this book:<br />
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<span id="hotword"><span id="hotword" name="hotword" onclick="this.style.backgroundColor='#b5d5ff';return hotWord(this);" onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='transparent'" onmouseover="this.style.cursor='default'" style="background-color: transparent; cursor: default;">1. Although in Islam polygamy is allowed, as stated in the Qur'an, but the conditions of it have to be met, i.e. the man is able to be just to his wives in all cases, the latter marriage is endorsed by the previous wife, etc.</span></span><br />
<span id="hotword"><span id="hotword" name="hotword" onclick="this.style.backgroundColor='#b5d5ff';return hotWord(this);" onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='transparent'" onmouseover="this.style.cursor='default'" style="background-color: transparent; cursor: default;">2. Having concubines, meaning women not legally married to a man but can be involved in sexual relationships with them, are not allowed in Islam. This is called <i>zina</i>, and the sanction in the Qur'an is very severe. In fact, it is said one of the reasons polygamy can be allowed is to prevent committing the sin of zina.</span></span><br />
<span id="hotword"><span id="hotword" name="hotword" onclick="this.style.backgroundColor='#b5d5ff';return hotWord(this);" onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='transparent'" onmouseover="this.style.cursor='default'" style="background-color: transparent; cursor: default;">3. The consumption of alcohol for drinks is prohibited in Islam. In this book the characters were described as drinking wine and even getting drunk. Prohibition of alcohol is debatable, though, some say that if it is in an amount that is not dangerous i.e. doesn't get the person drunk, then it is okay. As long as they don't get drunk. But for me, no alcoholic drinks (please note, it's <i>drinks</i>! not legal medicines) can go through my throat, thank you!</span></span><br />
<span id="hotword"><span id="hotword" name="hotword" onclick="this.style.backgroundColor='#b5d5ff';return hotWord(this);" onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='transparent'" onmouseover="this.style.cursor='default'" style="background-color: transparent; cursor: default;">4. On the veil. From my readings, discussions, etc.. I have come to believe that the most important is the veil of the heart, rather than physical veil. But I do really recommend women to wear very decent clothes and not showing their body parts. For me, personally, that is a dignified woman who loves herself and most importantly loves Allah SWT. ;)<br />
</span></span>Wichihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07237521698788757335noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643686971973788878.post-68546648999259973812010-08-30T09:29:00.000+07:002010-11-03T08:00:36.973+07:00Hukum Seorang Wanita Menambahkan Nama Suaminya di Belakang NamanyaSetelah menikah, terkadang seorang wanita mengganti namanya belakangnya atau nama keluarganya dengan nama suaminya. Hal ini juga banyak dilakukan di negara-negara barat, seperti istrinya Bill Clinton: Hillary Clinton yang nama aslinya Hillary Diane Rodham; istrinya Barrack Obama: Michelle Obama yang nama aslinya Michelle LaVaughn Robinson, dan lain-lain.<br />
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Lalu bagaimanakah pendapat para ulama tentang masalah ini?<br />
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<span id="more-1336"></span><strong>Fatwa Lajnah Da’imah:</strong><br />
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Fatawa al-Lajnah ad-Da’imah lil Buhutsil Ilmiyyah wal Ifta’ juz 20 halaman 379.<br />
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<strong>Pertanyaan </strong>:<br />
Telah umum di sebagian negara, seorang wanita muslimah setelah menikah menisbatkan namanya dengan nama suaminya atau laqobnya. Misalnya: Zainab menikah dengan Zaid, Apakah boleh baginya menuliskan namanya : Zainab Zaid? Ataukah hal tersebut merupakan budaya barat yang harus dijauhi dan berhati-hati dengannya?<br />
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<strong>Jawab </strong>:<br />
Tidak boleh seseorang menisbatkan dirinya kepada selain ayahnya.<br />
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Alloh subhanahu wa ta’ala berfirman:<br />
<div style="text-align: right;"><span lang="AR-SA" style="direction: rtl; font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 150%;">ادْعُوهُمْ لِآبَائِهِمْ هُوَ أَقْسَطُ عِنْدَ اللَّهِ</span></div>“Panggillah mereka (anak-anak angkat itu) dengan memakai nama bapak-bapak mereka, itulah yang lebih adil di sisi Allah.” [QS al-Ahzab: 5]<br />
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Sungguh telah datang ancaman yang keras bagi orang yang menisbatkan kepada selain ayahnya. Maka dari itu tidak boleh seorang wanita menisbatkan dirinya kepada suaminya sebagaimana adat yang berlaku pada kaum kuffar dan yang menyerupai mereka dari kaum muslimin.<br />
<div style="text-align: right;"><span lang="AR-SA" style="direction: rtl; font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 150%;">وبالله التوفيق، وصلى الله على نبينا محمد وآله وصحبه وسلم</span></div><em>al-Lajnah ad-Da’imah lil Buhutsil Ilmiyyah wal Ifta’</em><br />
<em>Ketua : Abdul Aziz bin Abdillah bin Baz</em><br />
<em>Wakil : Abdul Aziz Alu Syaikh</em><br />
<em>Anggota :</em><br />
<em>Abdulloh bin ghudayyan</em><br />
<em>Sholih al-Fauzan</em><br />
<em>Bakr Abu Zaid</em><br />
<div lang="AR-SA" style="direction: rtl; font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 150%; text-align: right;">فتاوى اللجنة الدائمةالسؤال الثالث من الفتوى رقم ( 18147 )<br />
س3: قد شاع في بعض البلدان نسبة المرأة المسلمة بعد الزواج إلى اسم زوجها أو لقبه، فمثلا تزوجت زينب زيدا، فهل يجوز لها أن تكتب: (زينب زيد)، أم هي من الحضارة الغربية التي يجب اجتنابها والحذر منها؟<br />
ج3: لا يجوز نسبة الإنسان إلى غير أبيه، قال تعالى: { ادْعُوهُمْ لِآبَائِهِمْ هُوَ أَقْسَطُ عِنْدَ اللَّهِ } (1) وقد جاء الوعيد الشديد على من انتسب إلى غير أبيه. وعلى هذا فلا يجوز نسبة المرأة إلى زوجها كما جرت العادة عند الكفار، ومن تشبه بهم من المسلمين<br />
وبالله التوفيق، وصلى الله على نبينا محمد وآله وصحبه وسلم.<br />
اللجنة الدائمة للبحوث العلمية والإفتاء<br />
عضو … عضو … عضو … نائب الرئيس … الرئيس<br />
بكر أبو زيد … صالح الفوزان … عبد الله بن غديان … عبد العزيز آل الشيخ … عبد العزيز بن عبد الله بن باز</div><div style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://ummushilah.0fees.net/wordpress/?p=1336">***</a></div><div style="text-align: left;"><strong>Fatwa Syaikh Sholih al-Fauzan <em>hafidzohulloh</em></strong></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;"><strong>Pertanyaan </strong>:</div>Apakah boleh seorang wanita setelah menikah melepaskan nama keluarganya dan mengambil nama suaminya sebagaimana orang barat?<br />
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<strong>Jawab </strong>:<br />
Hal itu tidak diperbolehkan, bernasab kepada selain ayahnya tidak boleh, haram dalam islam.<br />
Haram dalam islam seorang muslim bernasab kepada selain ayahnya baik laki-laki atau wanita. Dan baginya ancaman yang keras dan laknat bagi yang melakukannya yaitu yang bernasab kepada selain ayahnya hal itu tidak boleh selamanya.<br />
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<em>Dari kaset Syarh Mandhumatul Adab Syaikh al-Fauzan Hafidhohulloh</em><br />
<div lang="AR-SA" style="direction: rtl; font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 150%; text-align: right;">السؤالهل يجوز للمرأة بعد الزواج ان تتنازل عن اسمها العائلي وتاخذ اسم زوجها كما هو الحال في الغرب؟الجواب هذا لا يجوز الانتساب الى غير الاب لا يجوز حرام في الاسلام<br />
حرام في الاسلام ان المسلم ينتسب الى غير ابيه سواءا كان رجلا ام امرأة وهذا عليه وعيد شديد وملعون من فعله الذي ينتسب الى غير مواليه او ينتسب الى غير ابيه هذا لا يجوز ابدا<br />
من شريط شرح منظومة الآداب للشيخ الفوزان حفظه الله<br />
<div style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://ummushilah.0fees.net/wordpress/?p=1336">***</a></div></div><strong>Fatwa Syaikh Muhammad Ali Farkus </strong><strong><em>hafidzohulloh</em></strong><br />
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<strong>Pertanyaan :</strong><br />
Apakah wajib secara syar’i bagi seorang wanita menyertakan nama suaminya atau sebisa mungkin tetap menggunakan nama aslinya?<br />
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<strong>Jawab :</strong><br />
<div style="text-align: right;"><span lang="AR-SA" style="direction: rtl; font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 150%;">:الحمد لله ربِّ العالمين، والصلاة والسلام على من أرسله الله رحمة للعالمين، وعلى آله وصحبه وإخوانه إلى يوم الدين، أمَّا بعد</span></div>Tidak boleh dari segi nasab seseorang bernasab kepada selain nasabnya yang asli atau mengaku keturunan dari yang bukan ayahnya sendiri. Sungguh islam telah mengharamkan seorang ayah mengingkari nasab anaknya tanpa sebab yang benar secara ijma’.<br />
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Alloh berfirman :<br />
<div style="text-align: right;"><span lang="AR-SA" style="direction: rtl; font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 150%;">ادْعُوهُمْ لآبَائِهِمْ هُوَ أَقْسَطُ عِندَ اللهِ فَإِن لَّمْ تَعْلَمُوا آبَاءَهُمْ فَإِخْوَانُكُمْ فِي الدِّينِ وَمَوَالِيكُمْ وَلَيْسَ عَلَيْكُمْ جُنَاحٌ فِيمَا أَخْطَأْتُم بِهِ وَلَكِن مَّا تَعَمَّدَتْ قُلُوبُكُمْ وَكَانَ اللهُ غَفُورًا رَّحِيمًا<br />
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Dan sabda nabi shollallohu alaihi wa sallam : <br />
<div style="text-align: right;"><span lang="AR-SA" style="direction: rtl; font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 150%;">مَنِ ادَّعَى إِلَى غَيْرِ أَبِيهِ أَوْ انْتَمَى إِلَى غَيْرِ مَوَالِيهِ، فَعَلَيْهِ لَعْنَةُ اللهِ وَالمَلاَئِكَةِ وَالنَّاسِ أَجْمَعِينَ، لاَ يَقْبَلُ اللهُ مِنْهُ يَوْمَ القِيَامَةِ صَرْفًا وَلاَ عَدْلاً</span></div>“Barang siapa yang mengaku sebagai anak kepada selain bapaknya atau menisbatkan dirinya kepada yang bukan walinya, maka baginya laknat Alloh, malaikat, dan segenap manusia. Pada hari Kiamat nanti, Alloh tidak akan menerima darinya ibadah yang wajib maupun yang sunnah”<br />
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Dikeluarkan oleh Muslim dalam al-Hajj (3327) dan Tirmidzi dalam al-Wala’ wal Habbah bab Ma ja’a fiman tawalla ghoiro mawalihi (2127), Ahmad (616) dari hadits Ali bin Abi Tholib rodhiyallohu anhu.<br />
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Dan dalam riwayat yang lain :<br />
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<div style="text-align: right;"><span lang="AR-SA" style="direction: rtl; font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 150%;">مَنِ ادَّعَى إِلَى غَيْرِ أَبِيهِ وَهُوَ يَعْلَمُ أَنَّهُ غَيْرُ أَبِيهِ، فَالجَنَّةُ عَلَيْهِ حَرَامٌ</span></div>“Barang siapa bernasab kepada selain ayahnya dan ia mengetahui bahwa ia bukan ayahnya, maka surga haram baginya.”<br />
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Dikeluarkan oleh Bukhori dalam al-Maghozi bab : Ghozwatuth Tho`if (3982), Muslim dalam “al-Iman” (220), Abu Dawud dalam “al-Adab” (bab Bab Seseorang mengaku keturunan dari yang bukan bapaknya (5113) dan Ibnu Majah dalam (al-Hudud) bab : Bab orang yang mengaku keturunan dari yang bukan bapaknya atau berwali kepada selain walinya (2610) dan Ibnu Hibban (415) dan Darimi (2453) dan Ahmad (1500) dan hadits Sa’ad bin Abi Waqqosh dan Abu Bakroh rodhiyallohu anhuma.<br />
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Maka tidak boleh dikatakan : Fulanah bintu Fulan sedangkan ia bukan anaknya, tetapi boleh dikatakan : Fulanah zaujatu Fulan (Fulanah istrinya si Fulan) atau tanggungannya si Fulan atau wakilnya Fulan. Dan jika tidak disebutkan idhofah-idhofah ini -dan hal ini sudah diketahui & biasa- maka sesungguhnya apa-apa yang berlaku dalam adat, itulah yang dipertimbangkan dalam syari’at-.<br />
<div style="text-align: right;"><span lang="AR-SA" style="direction: rtl; font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 150%;">والعلمُ عند الله تعالى، وآخر دعوانا أنِ الحمد لله ربِّ العالمين، وصلى الله على نبيّنا محمّد وعلى آله وصحبه وإخوانه إلى يوم الدين، وسلّم تسليمًا</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span lang="AR-SA" style="direction: rtl; font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 150%;">Makkah, 4 Syawwal 1427 H</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span lang="AR-SA" style="direction: rtl; font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 150%;">Bertepatan dengan 16 Oktober 2006 M<br />
</span> </div><div style="text-align: center;">***</div><div lang="AR-SA" style="direction: rtl; font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 150%; text-align: right;">السؤال: هل الواجبُ على المرأةِ حملُ لقبِ زوجِها شرعًا أم بإمكانها البقاء على لقبها الأصليِّ ؟الجوابالحمد لله ربِّ العالمين، والصلاة والسلام على من أرسله الله رحمة للعالمين، وعلى آله وصحبه وإخوانه إلى يوم الدين، أمَّا بعد:<br />
فلا يجوزُ من حيث النسبُ أن يُنْسَبَ المرءُ إلى غير نسبه الأصلي أو يُدَّعَى إلى غير أبيه، فقد حَرَّم الإسلام على الأب أن يُنْكِرَ نَسَبَ ولدِه بغير حقٍّ إجماعًا، لقوله تعالى: ﴿ادْعُوهُمْ لآبَائِهِمْ هُوَ أَقْسَطُ عِندَ اللهِ فَإِن لَّمْ تَعْلَمُوا آبَاءَهُمْ فَإِخْوَانُكُمْ فِي الدِّينِ وَمَوَالِيكُمْ وَلَيْسَ عَلَيْكُمْ جُنَاحٌ فِيمَا أَخْطَأْتُم بِهِ وَلَكِن مَّا تَعَمَّدَتْ قُلُوبُكُمْ وَكَانَ اللهُ غَفُورًا رَّحِيمًا﴾ [الأحزاب: 5]، ولقوله صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم: «مَنِ ادَّعَى إِلَى غَيْرِ أَبِيهِ أَوْ انْتَمَى إِلَى غَيْرِ مَوَالِيهِ، فَعَلَيْهِ لَعْنَةُ اللهِ وَالمَلاَئِكَةِ وَالنَّاسِ أَجْمَعِينَ، لاَ يَقْبَلُ اللهُ مِنْهُ يَوْمَ القِيَامَةِ صَرْفًا وَلاَ عَدْلاً»(١- أخرجه مسلم في «الحج» (3327)، والترمذي في «الولاء والهبة» باب: باب ما جاء فيمن تولى غير مواليه (2127)، وأحمد (616)، من حديث علي بن أبي طالب رضي الله عنه، وفي رواية أخرى: «مَنِ ادَّعَى إِلَى غَيْرِ أَبِيهِ وَهُوَ يَعْلَمُ أَنَّهُ غَيْرُ أَبِيهِ، فَالجَنَّةُ عَلَيْهِ حَرَامٌ»(٢- أخرجه البخاري في «المغازي» باب: غزوة الطائف (3982)، ومسلم في «الإيمان» (220)، وأبو داود في «الأدب» باب: باب في الرجل ينتمي إلى غير مواليه (5113)، وابن ماجه في «الحدود» باب: باب من ادعى إلى غير أبيه أو تولى غير مواليه (2610)، وابن حبان (415)، والدارمي (2453)، وأحمد (1500)، من حديث سعد بن أبي وقاص وأبي بكرة رضي الله عنهما) ، فإذا كان لا يجوز أن يقال: فلانة بنت فلان وهي ليست ابنته، ولكن يجوز أن يقال: فلانة زوجة فلان أو مكفولة فلان أو وكيلة عن فلان، فإذا لم تذكر هذه الإضافات -وكانت معروفة معهودة- «فإنّ ما يجري بالعرف يجري بالشرع».<br />
والعلمُ عند الله تعالى، وآخر دعوانا أنِ الحمد لله ربِّ العالمين، وصلى الله على نبيّنا محمّد وعلى آله وصحبه وإخوانه إلى يوم الدين، وسلّم تسليمًا.<br />
<div align="center">مكة في: 4 شـوال 1427ﻫ</div><div align="center">الموافق ﻟ: 26 أكتوبر 2006م</div></div><div style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://ummushilah.0fees.net/wordpress/?p=1336">***</a></div><div style="text-align: left;"><strong>Lalu, Bagaimana yang disyariatkan?</strong></div><br />
Yang disunnahkan adalah menggunakan nama kunyah (baca: kun-yah), sebagaimana telah tsabit dalam banyak hadits, dan ini jelas lebih utama daripada menggunakan laqob/julukan-julukan yang berasal dari adat barat ataupun ‘ajam. Sebagaimana yang dikatakan oleh syaikh al-Albani <em>rohimahulloh </em>dalam <em>Silsilah al-Ahaadits ash-Shohihah</em> no. 132 :<br />
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Rosululloh shollallohu alahi wa sallam bersabda :<br />
<div style="text-align: right;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 150%;">اكْتَنِي [بابنك عبدالله – يعني : ابن الزبير] أَنْتِ أُمَّ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ</span></div>“Berkun-yahlah [dengan anakmu –yakni: Ibnu Zubair] kamu adalah Ummu Abdillah” [Lihat ash-Shohihah no. 132]<br />
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Dikeluarkan oleh al-Imam Ahmad : <em>haddatsana </em>Abdurrozzaq (bin Hammam, pent), <em>haddatsana </em>Ma’mar (bin Rosyid, pent) dari Hisyam (bin ‘Urwah, pent), dari bapaknya (Urwah bin Zubair, pent) : bahwa ‘Aisyah berkata kepada Nabi shollallohu alaihi wa sallam :<br />
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<div style="text-align: right;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 150%;">يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ كُلُّ نِسَائِكَ لَهَا كُنْيَةٌ غَيْرِي فَقَالَ لَهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فذكره بدون الزيادة</span></div><div style="text-align: right;"><span style="font-family: Tahoma; font-size: 9pt; line-height: 150%;"> </span></div><br />
“Wahai Rasulullah, semua istrimu selain aku memiliki kun-yah”, lalu Rasulullah shollallohu alaihi wa sallam bersabda kepadanya : (lalu beliau menyebutkan hadits ini tanpa tambahan).<br />
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Berkata (Urwah, pent) : Ketika itu ‘Aisyah disebut sebagai Ummu Abdillah sampai ia meninggal dan ia tidak pernah melahirkan sama sekali.<br />
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Berdasarkan hadits ini, disyariatkan berkun-yah walaupun seseorang tidak memiliki anak, ini merupakan adab Islami yang tidak ada bandingannya pada ummat lainnya sejauh yang aku ketahui. Maka sepatutnya bagi kaum muslimin untuk berpegang teguh padanya, baik laki-laki maupun wanita, dan meninggalkan apa yang masuk sedkit demi sedikit kepada mereka dari adat-adat kaum ‘Ajam seperti al-Biik (البيك), al-Afnadi (الأفندي), al-Basya (الباشا), dan yang semisal itu seperti al-Misyu (المسيو), as-Sayyid (السيد), as-Sayyidah (السيدة), dan al-Anisah (الآنسة), ketika semua itu masuk ke dalam Islam. Dan para fuqoha’ al-Hanafiyyah telah menegaskan tentang dibencinya al-Afnadi (الأفندي) karena di dalamnya terdapat tazkiyah, sebagaimana dalam kitab ‘Hasyiyah Ibnu Abidin’. Dan Sayyid hanya saja dimutlaqkan atas orang yang memiliki kepemimpinan atau jabatan, dan pada masalah ini terdapat hadits (قوموا إلى سيدكم) “Berdirilah kepada (tolonglah, pent) sayyid kalian”, dan telah berlalu pada nomor 66 (dalam ash-Shohihah, pent) dan tidak dimutlakkan atas semua orang karena ini juga masuk pada bentuk tazkiyah.<br />
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<strong>Faidah </strong>: adapun hadits yang diriwayatkan dari ‘Aisyah rodhiyallohu anha bahwa bahwa ia mengalami keguguran dari Nabi shollallohu alaihi wa sallam, lalu ia menamainya (janin yang gugur tersebut, pent) Abdulloh, dan ia berkun-yah dengannya, maka hadits tersebut bathil secara sanad dan matan. Dan keterangannya ada pada adh-Dho’ifah jilid ke-9. -<span style="color: red;"><em>Selesai perkataan syaikh al-Albani rohimahulloh</em></span>-<br />
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<strong><em>Maroji</em></strong>‘:<br />
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</div><div style="text-align: left;">Sumber: <a href="http://ummushofi.wordpress.com/2010/04/28/hukum-seorang-wanita-menambahkan-nama-suaminya-di-belakang-namanya/">http://ummushofi.wordpress.com/2010/04/28/hukum-seorang-wanita-menambahkan-nama-suaminya-di-belakang-namanya/ </a></div>Wichihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07237521698788757335noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643686971973788878.post-19231952492630919312010-05-21T11:51:00.002+07:002010-05-21T11:53:52.121+07:0027 Prayers to The Rabb from The Qur'an<div style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;"></span><span style="font-size: small;"></span></div><div class="post-header" style="font-family: inherit;"></div><div class="post-body entry-content" style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #660066;"></span></span><br />
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<tr><td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">1.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">My Lord, make this a City of Peace, and feed its people with fruits,-such of them as believe in Allah and the Last Day<br />
[2:126]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbi aj'al hadha baladaan aminan, waarzuq 'ahlahu mina ath-thamarati man amana minhum billahi wal-yawmal akhir</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;"> رَبِّ اجْعَلْ هَـَذَا بَلَدًا آمِنًا وَارْزُق ْأَهْلَهُ مِنَ الثَّمَرَاتِ مَنْ آمَنَ مِنْهُم بِاللّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ<br />
[البقرة :126]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">2.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">O my Lord! Grant unto me from Thee a progeny that is pure: for Thou art He that heareth prayer!<br />
[3:38]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbi habli mill-lidunka dhurriy-yata(n) <u>T</u>ayyibatah. Innaka Sami'ud-du'a</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="center"><span style="color: #660066;"> رَبِّ هَبْ لِي مِن لَّدُنْكَ ذُرِّيَّةً طَيِّبَةً إِنَّكَ سَمِيعُ الدُّعَاء<br />
[آل عمران :38]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">3.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #7f007f;">"O my Lord! forgive me and my brother! admit us to Thy mercy! for Thou art the Most Merciful of those who show mercy!"</span><span style="color: #660066;"><span style="color: #7f007f;"> </span><br />
[7: 151]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbi aghfir li wal akhi wa-adkhilna fi rahmatika wa anta arhamur-Rahimin</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="center"><span style="color: #660066;"> رَبِّ اغْفِرْ لِي وَلأَخِي وَأَدْخِلْنَا فِي رَحْمَتِكَ وَأَنتَ أَرْحَمُ الرَّاحِمِينَ<br />
[151: الأعراف]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">4.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">O my Lord! I do seek refuge with Thee, lest I ask Thee for that of which I have no knowledge. And unless thou forgive me and have Mercy on me, I should indeed be lost!<br />
[11:47]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbi inni a'udhubika 'an as'alaka ma laysa li bihi 'ilm. Wa 'illa tagfir li wa tarhamni 'akum minal khasireen</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;"> رَبِّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ أَنْ أَسْأَلَكَ مَا لَيْسَ لِي بِهِ عِلْمٌ وَإِلاَّ تَغْفِرْ لِي وَتَرْحَمْنِي أَكُن مِّنَ الْخَاسِرِينَ<br />
[هود :47]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">5.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #7f007f;">"O my Lord! Thou hast indeed bestowed on me some power, and taught me something of the interpretation of dreams and events,- O Thou Creator of the heavens and the earth! Thou art my Protector in this world and in the Hereafter. Take Thou my soul (at death) as one submitting to Thy will (as a Muslim), and unite me with the righteous."</span><br />
<span style="color: #660066;">[12:101]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbi qad aatay-tanee minal-mulki wa allam-tanee min ta'-weelil 'ahadees faatir assamawati wal-arz anta wa liyii fi dunya wal-'akhirati ta-waffanee musliman wa 'al-hiqnee bis-saaliheen</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">رَبِّ قَدْ آتَيْتَنِي مِنَ الْمُلْكِ وَعَلَّمْتَنِي مِن تَأْوِيلِ الأَحَادِيثِ فَاطِرَ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالأَرْضِ أَنتَ وَلِيِّي فِي الدُّنُيَا وَالآخِرَةِ تَوَفَّنِي مُسْلِمًا وَأَلْحِقْنِي بِالصَّالِحِينَ<br />
[يوسف :101]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">6.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">O my Lord! Make this city one of peace and security: and preserve me and my sons from worshipping idols.<br />
[14:35]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbi ij'al hadhal balada 'aaminan wa Ajnubni wa Baniya 'an na'budal-'Asnam</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="center"><span style="color: #660066;">رَبِّ اجْعَلْ هَـذَا الْبَلَدَ آمِنًا وَاجْنُبْنِي وَبَنِيَّ أَن نَّعْبُدَ الأَصْنَامَ<br />
[إبراهيم :35]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">7.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">O my Lord! make me one who establishes regular Prayer, and also (raise such) among my offspring O our Lord! and accept Thou my Prayer. O our Lord! cover (us) with Thy Forgiveness - me, my parents, and (all) Believers, on the Day that the Reckoning will be established!<br />
[14:40-41]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbij ja'alni muqeemus sal-laati wa min dhur-riyyati, rabbana wa taqabal du'a, rabbana-aghfirli wali wali dayya wa lil-mu'minina yawma yaqumul hisaab</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">رَبِّ اجْعَلْنِي مُقِيمَ الصَّلاَةِ وَمِن ذُرِّيَّتِي رَبَّنَا وَتَقَبَّلْ دُعَاء رَبَّنَا اغْفِرْ لِي وَ لِوَالِدَيَّ وَ لِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَوْمَ يَقُومُ الحِسَاب<br />
[إبراهيم :40-41]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">8.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">My Lord! bestow on them thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood<br />
[17:24]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbir ham huma kama rabbayani sagheera</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="center"><span style="color: #660066;">رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا<br />
[الإسراء :24]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">9.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">O my Lord! Let my entry be by the Gate of Truth and Honour, and likewise my exit by the Gate of Truth and Honour; and grant me from Thy Presence an authority to aid (me)."<br />
[17:80]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbi 'adkhilni mudkhala Sidqin wa 'akhrijni mukhraja Sidqin waj'al-li mil-ladunka Sultanan nasira</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">رَّبِّ أَدْخِلْنِي مُدْخَلَ صِدْقٍ وَأَخْرِجْنِي مُخْرَجَ صِدْقٍ وَاجْعَل لِّي مِن لَّدُنكَ سُلْطَانًا نَّصِيرًا</span><br />
<center><span style="color: #660066;">[الإسراء :80]</span></center></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">10.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">O my Lord! expand me my breast; Ease my task for me; And remove the impediment from my speech, So they may understand what I say<br />
[20:25--28]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbish rahli sadri wa yas-sir li amri wahloul uqdatam mil-lisaani yafqahu qawli</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="center"><span style="color: #660066;">رَبِّ اشْرَحْ لِي صَدْرِي وَيَسِّرْ لِي أَمْرِي وَاحْلُلْ عُقْدَةً مِّن لِّسَانِي يَفْقَهُوا قَوْلِي<br />
[25--28: طه]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">11.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">O my Lord! advance me in knowledge.<br />
[20:114]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="center"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbi zidni 'Ilma</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="center"><span style="color: #660066;">رَّبِّ زِدْنِي عِلْمًا<br />
[114: طه]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">12.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">O my Lord! leave me not without offspring, though thou art the best of inheritors<br />
[21:89]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbi la tadharni fardaw wa-anta Khairul Waritheen</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="center"><span style="color: #660066;">رَبِّ لَا تَذَرْنِي فَرْدًا وَأَنتَ خَيْرُ الْوَارِثِينَ<br />
[الأنبياء :89]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">13.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">O my Lord! enable me to disembark with thy blessing: for Thou art the Best to enable (us) to disembark<br />
[23:29]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbi anzilni munzalan mubarakan wa anta khayru ‘l-munzilin</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="center"><span style="color: #660066;">رَّبِّ أَنزِلْنِي مُنزَلًا مُّبَارَكًا وَأَنتَ خَيْرُ الْمُنزِلِينَ<br />
[المؤمنون :29]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">14.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">O my Lord! Put me not amongst the people who do wrong<br />
[23:94]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbi fala taj'alni fil-Qawmidh-Dhalimeen </span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="center"><span style="color: #660066;">رَبِّ فَلَا تَجْعَلْنِي فِي الْقَوْمِ الظَّالِمِينَ<br />
[المؤمنون :94]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">15.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">O my Lord! I seek refuge with Thee from the suggestions of the Evil Ones. And I seek refuge with Thee O my Lord! lest they should come near me<br />
[23:97-98]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbi a'udhu bika min hamazaatish- shayaatini wa a'udhu bika Rabbi any-yahdhuruun</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">رَّبِّ أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ هَمَزَاتِ الشَّيَاطِينِ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ رَبِّ أَن يَحْضُرُونِ<br />
[المؤمنون :97-98]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">16.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">O my Lord! grant Thou forgiveness and mercy for Thou art the Best of those who show mercy!<br />
[23:118]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbi aghfir warham wa anta khayrur Rahimeen</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="center"><span style="color: #660066;">رَّبِّ اغْفِرْ وَارْحَمْ وَأَنتَ خَيْرُ الرَّاحِمِينَ<br />
[المؤمنون :118]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">17.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">O my Lord! bestow wisdom on me, and join me with the righteous;<br />
[26:83]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbi hab li hukman wa'alhiqni bis-Saliheen </span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="center"><span style="color: #660066;">رَبِّ هَبْ لِي حُكْمًا وَأَلْحِقْنِي بِالصَّالِحِينَ<br />
[الشعراء :83]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">18.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">O my Lord! I have indeed wronged my soul! Do Thou then forgive me!<br />
[28:16]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbi inni dhalamtu nafsi faghfir li faghafara lahu innahu huwaal ghafur-ur-Raheem</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="center"> <span style="color: #7f007f;">رَبِّ إِنِّي ظَلَمْتُ نَفْسِي فَاغْفِرْ لِي فَغَفَرَ لَهُ إِنَّهُ هُوَ الْغَفُورُ الرَّحِيمُ</span><br />
<span style="color: #660066;">[القصص :16]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">19.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">O my Lord! Save me from people given to wrong-doing<br />
[28:21]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbi Najjini minal-Qawmidh-Dhalimeen </span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="center"><span style="color: #660066;">رَبِّ نَجِّنِي مِنَ الْقَوْمِ الظَّالِمِينَ<br />
[القصص :21]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">20.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">I do hope that my Lord will show me the smooth and straight Path<br />
[28:22]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbi 'an yahdiyani sawa'a-as-Sabeel</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="center"><span style="color: #660066;"> رَبِّي أَنْ يَهْدِيَنِي سَوَاءَ السَّبِيل<br />
[القصص :22]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">21.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">O my Lord! truly am I in (desperate) need of any good that Thou dost send me!<br />
[28:24]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbi inni li-ma anzalta liayya min khairin faqir</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="center"><span style="color: #660066;">رَبِّ إِنِّي لِمَا أَنزَلْتَ إِلَيَّ مِنْ خَيْرٍ فَقِير<br />
[القصص :24]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">22.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">O my Lord! Help Thou me against people who do mischief!<br />
[29:30]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="center"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbi ansurni 'alal-Qawmil-mufsideen </span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="center"><span style="color: #660066;">رَبِّ انصُرْنِي عَلَى الْقَوْمِ الْمُفْسِدِينَ<br />
[العنكبوت :30]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">23.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">O my Lord! Grant me a righteous (son)!<br />
[37:100]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="center"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbi-habli minas-<u>s</u>aliheen</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="center"><span style="color: #660066;">رَبِّ هَبْ لِي مِنَ الصَّالِحِينَ<br />
[الصافات :100]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">24.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">O my Lord! Grant me that I may be grateful for Thy favour which Thou has bestowed upon me, and upon both my parents, and that I may work righteousness such as Thou mayest approve; and be gracious to me in my issue. Truly have I turned to Thee and truly do I bow (to Thee) in Islam<br />
[46:15]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbi 'awzi'nî 'an 'ashkura ni'mataka Allati 'an'amta 'alayya wa 'ala walidayya wa 'an 'amala salihaan Tardahu wa 'Aslih-li fi Dhurriyati 'Inni tubtu 'ilayka wa 'inni minaal-Muslimeen </span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">رَبِّ أَوْزِعْنِي أَنْ أَشْكُرَ نِعْمَتَكَ الَّتِي أَنْعَمْتَ عَلَيَّ وَعَلَى وَالِدَيَّ وَأَنْ أَعْمَلَ صَالِحًا تَرْضَاهُ وَأَصْلِحْ لِي فِي ذُرِّيَّتِي إِنِّي تُبْتُ إِلَيْكَ وَإِنِّي مِنَ الْمُسْلِمِينَ<br />
[الأحقاف :15]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">25.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="center"><span style="color: #660066;">O my Lord! Forgive me!<br />
[38: 35]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="center"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbi ighfir lee </span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="center"><span style="color: #660066;">رَبِّ اغْفِرْ لِي<br />
[35: ص]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">26.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">O my Lord! Build for me, in nearness to Thee, a mansion in the Garden, and save me from Pharaoh and his doings, and save me from those that do wrong<br />
[66:11]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbi ibni li 'indaka Baytan Fil Jannah wa Najjini min Fir'awna wa 'amalihi wa Najjini minal-Qawmidh-Dhlimeen</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">رَبِّ ابْنِ لِي عِندَكَ بَيْتًا فِي الْجَنَّةِ وَنَجِّنِي مِنْ فِرْعَوْنَ وَعَمَلِه ِِ وَنَجِّنِي مِنَ الْقَوْمِ الظَّالِمِينَ<br />
[التحريم :11]</span></div></td> </tr>
<tr> <td width="4%"><div align="top"><b><span style="color: #660066;">27.</span></b></div></td> <td height="85" width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">O my Lord! Forgive me, my parents, all who enter my house in Faith, and (all) believing men and believing women: and to the wrong-doers grant Thou no increase but in perdition!<br />
[71:28]</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #003366;">Rabbigh-fir li wali-walidayya, wali man dakhala baytina mu'minaw walilmu'mineena, wal mu'minati wala tazidiz-zalimeena illa tabara</span></div></td> <td width="32%"><div align="justify"><span style="color: #660066;">رَبِّ اغْفِرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيَّ وَلِمَن دَخَلَ بَيْتِيَ مُؤْمِنًا وَلِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتِ وَلَا تَزِدِ الظَّالِمِينَ إِلَّا تَبَارًا<br />
[نوح :28]</span></div></td> </tr>
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</span></div><div align="center"><span style="font-size: small;">Source: <a href="http://theonlinemuslim.blogspot.com/2007/11/27-rabbi-duas.html">The Online Muslim</a></span></div></div>Wichihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07237521698788757335noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643686971973788878.post-76733911492072032462010-05-05T17:15:00.005+07:002010-05-05T17:26:13.565+07:00Pentingnya Pendidikan Perempuan (part 2)Sebelum saya membahas lebih lanjut tentang pentingnya pendidikan perempuan, saya akan menjelaskan mengapa saya memakai istilah "perempuan", ketimbang "wanita". Dalam kosakata sehari-hari pun, saya menghindari menggunakan "wanita" dan selalu menggunakan kata "perempuan". Karena, konon kata perempuan bisa diartikan menjadi "per-EMPU-an", dimana kata "empu" memiliki makna sebagai seorang/sesuatu yang penting/bernilai, seperti diungkapkan oleh Djauharah Bawazir:<br />
<blockquote>"Apabila kita mengurai kata perempuan, akan kita temukan akar kata empu yang mendapat awalan per dan akhiran an. Sementara kata <i>empu </i>pada kamus bahasa Indonesia susunan W.J.S Poerwodarminto diartikan seagai tuan atau orang ahli. Sedangkan dalam bahasa Jawa, kata empu juga jadi sebutan bagi bagian awal/yang ada lebih dahulu dari beragai temu (bahan bumbu masak atau jamu, seperti kunyit, jahe, kunci, atau lainnya) yang dari situ akan tumbuh tunas-tunas atau disebut juga entik. Empu akan meberikan makanan dan menjaga pertumbuhan tunas-tunas itu sampai mereka siap hidup dipisahkan dari sang empu untuk nantinya merekapun akan menumbuhkan tunas-tunas baru, dan mereka masing-masing akan menjadi empu. Orang yang ahli membuat jamu pasti akan mencari empu, bukan entik, karena empu mempunyai kualitas yang luar biasa dibanding dengan entiknya. Baik dari rasa, kandungan maupun khasiatnya. Nah, per-empu-an bisa diartikan sebagai orang terhormat yang mempunyai kualitas luar biasa, dari segi kemampuan, keuletan, kegigihan dan kesabaran, termasuk kesediaan menanggung resiko."</blockquote>Dengan demikian, menggunakan kata "perempuan" buat saya pribadi memberikan kehormatan sendiri bagi perempuan. <br />
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Pendidikan memang penting bagi seluruh manusia. Pendidikan dapat diartikan menjadi <i>tarbiyah</i>, yang berasal dari kata <i>"rabb"</i> yang bisa diartikan menjadi <i>membina, menjaga, memelihara</i>. Seperti kita ketahui, <i>Rabb</i> adalah salah satu sifat Allah SWT yang senantiasa membina, menjaga dan memelihara segalanya di alam semesta ini. Tarbiyah sendiri menjadi penting dan sesuatu yang dibutuhkan bagi manusia karena beberapa hal.<i> Pertama</i>, manusia pada fitrahnya selalu membutuhkan nasihat. Ini dihubungkan dengan faktor <i>kedua</i>, yaitu bahwa manusia memiliki sifat pelupa, lemah dan bodoh. Karena sifat-sifat inilah manusia terus harus dan pada dasarnya ingin ditempa sehingga menjadi kuat dan baik. Selain itu, yang <i>ketiga</i>, manusia butuh hidup berkelompok. Proses tarbiyah adalah sesuatu yang tidak bisa dilakukan sendirian. Kita butuh orang lain untuk mengajarkan kita, seperti mungkin orang lain butuh kita untuk bisa menunjukkan dia kepada kebaikan.<br />
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Mengapa pendidikan menjadi begitu penting, khususnya bagi perempuan? Karena perempuan adalah <i>pembentuk generasi dan menciptakan peradaban. </i>Setiap manusia yang pernah ada di muka bumi ini, kecuali Nabi Adam AS dan Siti Hawa, berasal dari rahim seorang ibu -- seorang perempuan. Adanya kita selama sembilan bulan dikandung di dalam rahim ibu kita, membuat kita memiliki hubungan yang sangat istimewa dengan ibu kita. Anak-anak pun, dalam perkembangannya sangat dipengaruhi oleh ibu, dimulai dari sejak awal proses konsepsinya. Misalnya kondisi kerohanian pada saat pembuahan bisa jadi mempengaruhi perkembangan janin dan proses kelahiran itu sendiri. Maka dari itu dianjurkan kepada pasangan suami-istri yang hendak bersenggama untuk berdoa agar dihindarkan dari setan dan dijadikan hubungan tersebut--dan hasilnya kelak--sebagai rezeki, sebagaimana sabda Rasulullah SAW:<br />
<blockquote>"Seandainya salah seorang diantara kamu apabila ingin berhubungan dengan keluarganya membaca--<b>Allahumma jannibna asy-syaithaan wa jannib asy-syaithaan 'ammaa razaqtanaa</b>, (Ya Allah, jauhkanlah kami dari setan, dan jauhkan pula setan dari rezeki yang engkau anugerahkan kepada kami)--maka jika hasil dari hubungan itu menghasilkan anak, maka setan tidak akan mengganggunya sama sekali." (HR. Bukhari)</blockquote> Selain itu, hendaknya kita merujuk kepada firman Allah SWT dalam ayat sbb:<br />
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"Istri-istrimu adalah ladang bagimu..." (Q.S. Al Baqarah 2:223)</div></blockquote>Firman Allah SWT tersebut mengkiaskan bahwa istri adalah <i>ladang</i> dan suami adalah <i>petani</i>nya. Bibit yang ditanam sang petani, betapapun bagusnya, hanya akan dapat memberikan hasil yang baik saat panen jika ladang yang digarap adalah baik tanahnya. Begitupun dalam kehidupan berkeluarga, anak hasil pembuahan pun akan berkualitas baik apabila tempat yang dikandungnya dalam kondisi yang bagus pula, baik fisik maupun rohaninya.
Jika perempuan yang akan menjadi ibu ini dibekali dengan pendidikan/tarbiyah yang baik, maka yang jelas ia akan lebih kaya dalam ilmu dan wawasan. Allah SWT berfirman:
<blockquote>
"Hai orang-orang yang beriman, apabila dikatakan kepadamu: "Berlapang-lapanglah dalam majelis", maka lapangkanlah, niscaya Allah akan memberi kelapangan untukmu. Dan apabila dikatakan: "Berdirilah kamu, maka berdirilah, niscaya Allah akan meninggikan orang-orang yang beriman di antaramu dan orang-orang yang diberi ilmu pengetahuan beberapa derajat. Dan Allah Maha Mengetahui apa yang kamu kerjakan." (Q.S. Al Mujaadilah 58:11)</blockquote>Maka Allah SWT akan meninggikan derajat orang-orang yang memiliki ilmu pengetahuan, yaitu mereka yang beriman dan menghiasi diri mereka dengan ilmu pengetahuan. Seperti diuraikan M. Quraish Shihab dalam Tafsir Al Mishbah ayat ini, ilmu yang dimaksud disini adalah segala apapun ilmu yang bermanfaat, bukan hanya terbatas pada ilmu agama saja. Rasulullah SAW pun pernah bersabda tentang kedudukan orang berilmu (dan beriman) dibandingkan dengan orang yang beriman saja:
<blockquote>
"Kelebihan orang berilmu dibandingkan dengan <i>'abid (seorang ahli ibadah) </i>adalah tujuh puluh derajat." (HR. Ashbihaani)</blockquote>Maka ilmu menjadi cahaya dalam langkah manusia, membuat manusia takut dan kagum kepada Allah SWT dan meninggikan derajat manusia. Dengan ilmu, keimanan dapat meningkat, begitupun dengan produktivitas kita.
Dalam konteks peranan perempuan di keluarga, dengan ilmu yang dimiliki, perempuan sebagai istri dapat lebih mendukung suami dalam dakwah, dan dapat meraih kesuksesan dalam mendidik anak-anaknya. Ia memiliki pemahaman yang baik tentang menjadi istri yang shalihah, dan senantiasa bahu-membahu bersama suami dalam melaksanakan amar ma'ruf nahi munkar, sebagaimana Allah SWT telah berfirman:
<blockquote>
<div align="right" dir="RTL">
</div>"Dan orang-orang yang beriman, laki-laki dan perempuan, sebagian mereka menjadi penolong bagi sebagian yang lain. Mereka menyuruh (berbuat) yang ma'ruf, dan mencegah dari yang mungkar, melaksanakan salat menunaikan zakat, dan taat kepada Allah dan Rasul-Nya. Mereka akan diberi rahmat oleh Allah. Sunggu, Allah Mahaperkasa, Mahabijaksana." (Q.S. At Taubah 9:71). </blockquote>Dalam mendidik anak-anaknya, perempuan yang berpendidikan juga memiliki kesempatan yang lebih baik dalam menghasilkan anak-anak menjadi generasi rabbani, shalih dan muslih. Anak-anak tidak hanya menjadi <i>qurrata 'Ayun</i> penyejuk mata dan hati, tetapi juga menjadi rahmat. Keimanan anak-anak dan keturunannya membuat keluarga saling terhubung dalam keimanan baik di dunia, maupun akhirat, sesuai firman Allah SWT:<span class="Arabic" id="fon0" style="color: green;"><span id="mspan0"> </span></span>
<blockquote>
<div align="right" dir="RTL">
</div>"Dan orang-orang yang beriman, dan yang anak cucu mereka mengikuti
mereka dalam keimanan, Kami hubungkan anak cucu mereka dengan mereka,
dan Kami tiada mengurangi sedikit pun dari pahala amal mereka.
Tiap-tiap manusia terikat dengan apa yang dikerjakannya." (Q.S. At Thuur 52:21)</blockquote>Sehingga sekeluarga pun dapat berkumpul kembali di dalam Surga-Nya, sebagaimana Allah SWT telah berfirman sbb:
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"Surga Adn yang mereka masuk ke dalamnya bersama-sama dengan orang-orang yang saleh dari bapak-bapaknya, istri-istrinya dan anak cucunya, sedang malaikat-malaikat masuk ke tempat-tempat mereka dari semua pintu" (Q.S. Ar Ra'd 13:23)</blockquote>Selain itu, perempuan juga memiliki peranan dalam masyarakat. Selain sebagai pembentuk generasi rabbani, perempuan dalam sendirinya dapat memiliki peranan yang penting sebagai anggota masyarakat. Perempuan yang meraih pendidikan akan lebih kritis dan <i>aware </i>terhadap lingkungannya, berusaha sebaik mungkin untuk memperbaiki kondisi masyarakat dan lingkungan di tempat dia berada. Ini dengan sendirinya juga akan meningkatkan kualitas masyarakat dan peradaban itu sendiri menuju masyarakat yang madani.
Akhirul kata, semoga para perempuan lebih semangat dan istiqamah dalam menuntut ilmu yang bermanfaat, dan bagi perempuan yang telah dianugerahi Allah dengan kemampuan dan kekayaan ilmu dan wawasan yang lebih, semoga dapat lebih memanfaatkannya untuk perwujudan rasa cinta dan <i>khasyah, </i>takut dan kagumnya kepada Allah SWT, dan menjadikannya sarana untuk kebaikan ummat dan agamanya. <i><b>Allahumma innii audzubika min 'ilmi laa yanfa'</b> (Ya Allah, aku berlindung kepadaMu dari ilmu yang tidak bermanfaat)</i>Wichihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07237521698788757335noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643686971973788878.post-8997657109878013592010-04-01T15:13:00.000+07:002010-04-01T15:14:41.222+07:00Renungan buat para perempuan dan laki-lakiJangankan lelaki biasa, Nabi pun terasa sunyi tanpa wanita. Tanpa kehadiran mereka maka hati, pikiran, dan perasaan lelaki akan resah. Masih mencari walaupun sudah ada segala-galanya. Apalagi yang tidak ada di syurga, namun Nabi Adam a.s. tetap merindukan Siti Hawa.<br />
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Kepada wanitalah lelaki memanggil ibu, istri atau puteri. Wanita dijadikan dari tulang rusuk yang bengkok untuk diluruskan oleh lelaki, tetapi kalau lelaki sendiri yang tidak lurus, tidak mungkin mampu meluruskan mereka. Tak logis kayu yang bengkok dapat menghasilkan bayang-bayang yang lurus. Luruskanlah wanita dengan petunjuk Allah. Didiklah mereka dengan panduan dariNya : JANGAN COBA JINAKKAN MEREKA DENGAN HARTA, NANTI MEREKA SEMAKIN LIAR. JANGAN HIBUR MEREKA DENGAN KECANTIKAN, NANTI MEREKA SEMAKIN MENDERITA. Yang bersifat sementara (fana) itu tidak akan menyelesaikan masalah. Kenalkan mereka kepada Allah, Dzat yang Maha Kekal. Di situlah kuncinya. AKAL SETIPIS RAMBUTNYA, MAKA TEBALKAN DENGAN ILMU. HATI SERAPUH KACA, MAKA KUATKAN DENGAN IMAN. PERASAAN SELEMBUT SUTERA, MAKA HIASILAH DENGAN AKHLAK.<br />
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Suburkanlah mereka karena dari situlah nanti akan nampak penilaian dan keadilan Tuhan. Akan terhibur dan berbahagialah mereka walaupun tidak jadi ratu cantik dunia, presiden atau perdana menteri negara ataupun women gladiator. Bisikkan ke telinga mereka bahwa kelembutan bukanlah suatu kelemahan. Itu bukan diskriminasi Tuhan. Sebaliknya disitulah kasih sayang Tuhan, karena rahim wanita yang lembut itulah yang mengandung lelaki-lelaki yang menjadi negarawan, karyawan, jutawan dan wan-wan lain.<br />
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Tidak akan lahir superman tanpa superwoman. Wanita yang lupa hakikat kejadiannya pasti tidak terhibur dan tidak menghiburkan. Tanpa ilmu, iman dan akhlak, mereka bukan saja tidak bisa diluruskan, bahkan mereka malah membengkokkan. LEBIH BANYAK LELAKI YANG DIRUSAKKAN OLEH PEREMPUAN DARIPADA PEREMPUAN YANG DIRUSAKKAN OLEH LELAKI. SEBODOH-BODOH PEREMPUAN PUN BISA MENUNDUKKAN SEPANDAI-PANDAI LELAKI.<br />
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Itulah akibatnya apabila wanita tidak kenal Tuhan. Mereka tidak akan kenal diri mereka sendiri, apalagi mengenal lelaki. Kini bukan saja banyak boss telah kehilangan secretary, bahkan anak pun akan kehilangan ibu, suami kehilangan istri, dan bapak akan kehilangan puteri. Bila wanita durhaka maka dunia akan huru-hara. Bila tulang rusuk patah, maka rusaklah jantung, hati, dan limpa. Para lelaki jangan pula hanya mengharap ketaatan, tetapi binalah kepemimpinan. Pastikan sebelum memimpin wanita menuju Allah PIMPINLAH DIRI SENDIRI DAHULU KEPADA-NYA. Jinakkan diri kita kepada Allah, maka niscaya jinaklah segala-galanya dibawah pimpinan kita. JANGAN MENGHARAP ISTRI KITA SEPERTI SITI FATIMAH KALAU PRIBADI KITA BELUM SEPERTI SAYIDINA ALI.<br />
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<i>Catatan: Jika ada sahabat yang tahu sumber tulisan ini, mohon diinfokan, jazakallahu khayran :) </i>Wichihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07237521698788757335noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643686971973788878.post-23865984823312253682010-02-02T19:01:00.001+07:002011-06-30T16:42:54.969+07:00Ukhti Indahkan JilbabmuSemangat sekali Wichi nge-blog hari ini. Hehe. Soalnya biasanya suka banyak nemu artikel bagus dlm sehari, jadi diborong deh. Gapapa, yang penting tetap bermanfaat, Insya<span style="font-weight: bold;">الله</span><span style="font-weight: bold;">.</span><br />
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Nah, ini ada tulisan tentang cara berpakaian yang syar'i untuk para Muslimah. Semoga bermanfaat dan barokah. Amin. Here's the article:<br />
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<h2><a href="http://huriyah.blog.friendster.com/2007/04/ukhti-indahkan-jilbabmu/" rel="bookmark" title="Permanent Link to Ukhti Indahkan Jilbabmu">Ukhti Indahkan Jilbabmu</a></h2><small>April 15th, 2007 by huriyah</small><br />
Islam adalah ajaran yang sangat sempurna, sampai-sampai cara berpakaian pun dibimbing oleh Alloh Dzat yang paling mengetahui apa yang terbaik bagi diri kita. Bisa jadi sesuatu yang kita sukai, baik itu berupa model pakaian atau perhiasan pada hakikatnya justru jelek menurut Alloh. Alloh berfirman:<br />
<em>“Boleh jadi kamu membenci sesuatu padahal itu adalah baik bagimu dan boleh jadi kamu menyukai sesuatu padahal sebenarnya itu buruk bagimu, Alloh lah yang Maha mengetahui sedangkan kamu tidak mengetahui.” </em>(Al Baqoroh: 216).<br />
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Oleh karenanya marilah kita ikuti bimbingan-Nya dalam segala perkara termasuk mengenai cara berpakaian.<br />
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<strong><span style="color: black;">Perintah dari Atas Langit</span></strong><br />
Alloh Ta’ala memerintahkan kepada kaum muslimah untuk berjilban sesuai syari’at. Alloh berfirman:<br />
<em> “Wahai Nabi katakanlah kepada isteri-isterimu, anak-anak perempuanmu serta para wanita kaum beriman agar mereka mengulurkan jilbab-jilbab mereka ke seluruh tubuh mereka. Yang demikian itu agar mereka mudah dikenal dan tidak diganggu orang. Alloh Maha pengampun lagi Maha penyayang.”</em> (Al Ahzab: 59)<br />
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Ketentuan Jilbab Menurut Syari’at</strong><br />
Berikut ini beberapa ketentuan jilbab syar’i ketika seorang muslimah berada di luar rumah atau berhadapan dengan laki-laki yang bukan mahrom (bukan ‘muhrim’, karena muhrim berarti orang yang berihrom) yang<br />
bersumber dari Al Qur’an dan As Sunnah yang shohihah dengan contoh penyimpangannya, semoga Alloh memudahkan kita untuk memahami kebenaran dan mengamalkannya serta memudahkan kita untuk meninggalkan busana yang melanggar ketentuan Robbul ‘alamiin.<br />
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<strong>Pertama</strong><br />
Pakaian muslimah itu harus menutup seluruh badannya kecuali wajah dan kedua telapak tangan (lihat Al Ahzab: 59 dan An Nuur: 31). Selain keduanya seperti leher dan lain-lain, maka tidak boleh ditampakkan<br />
walaupun cuma sebesar uang logam, apalagi malah buka-bukaan. Bahkan sebagian ulama mewajibkan untuk ditutupi seluruhnya tanpa kecuali-red.<br />
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<strong>Kedua</strong><br />
Bukan busana perhiasan yang justru menarik perhatian seperti yang banyak dihiasi dengan gambar bunga apalagi yang warna-warni, atau disertai gambar makhluk bernyawa, apalagi gambarnya lambang partai<br />
politik!!!; ini bahkan bisa menimbulkan perpecahan diantara sesama muslimin. Sadarlah wahai kaum muslimin…<br />
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<strong>Ketiga</strong><br />
Harus longgar, tidak ketat, tidak tipis dan tidak sempit yang mengakibatkan lekuk-lekuk tubuhnya tampak atau transparan. Cermatilah, dari sini kita bisa menilai apakah jilbab gaul yang tipis dan ketat yang banyak dikenakan para mahasiswi maupun ibu-ibu di sekitar kita dan bahkan para artis itu sesuai syari’at atau tidak.<br />
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<strong>Keempat</strong><br />
Tidak diberi wangi-wangian atau parfum karena dapat memancing syahwat lelaki yang mencium keharumannya. Nabi shollallohu ‘alaihi wa sallam bersabda, “Jika salah seorang wanita diantara kalian hendak ke masjid, maka janganlah sekali-kali dia memakai wewangian.” (HR. Muslim). Kalau pergi ke masjid saja dilarang memakai wewangian lalu bagaimana lagi para wanita yang pergi ke kampus-kampus, ke pasar-pasar bahkan berdesak-desakkan dalam bis kota dengan parfum yang menusuk hidung?! Wallohul musta’an.<br />
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<strong>Kelima</strong><br />
Tidak menyerupai pakaian laki-laki seperti memakai celana panjang, kaos oblong dan semacamnya. Rosululloh melaknat laki-laki yang menyerupai perempuan dan perempuan yang menyerupai laki-laki (HR. Bukhori)<br />
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<strong>Keenam</strong><br />
Tidak menyerupai pakaian orang-orang kafir. Nabi senantiasa memerintahkan kita untuk menyelisihi mereka diantaranya dalam masalah pakaian yang menjadi ciri mereka.<br />
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<strong>Ketujuh</strong><br />
Bukan untuk mencari popularitas. Untuk apa kalian mencari popularitas wahai saudariku? Apakah kalian ingin terjerumus ke dalam neraka hanya demi popularitas semu. Lihatlah isteri Nabi yang cantik Ibunda ‘Aisyah<br />
rodhiyallohu ‘anha yang dengan patuh menutup dirinya dengan jilbab syar’i, bukankah kecerdasannya amat masyhur di kalangan ummat ini?<br />
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Wallohul muwaffiq.Wichihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07237521698788757335noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643686971973788878.post-54256138773788904592010-02-02T18:21:00.000+07:002010-02-02T18:21:51.930+07:00Pentingnya Pendidikan Perempuan (part 1)Pendidikan memang hak asasi manusia, dan seharusnya setiap manusia berhak mendapatkan pendidikan yang layak. Akan tetapi, pendidikan yang lebih utama adalah pendidikan untuk perempuan. Mengapa? Karena perempuan yang terdidik dari segi ilmu pengetahuan duniawi dan agama, akan sangat mensejahterakan masyarakat.<br />
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Namun ini jarang sekali dilihat oleh orang-orang. Dikarenakan, mendidik perempuan tidak langsung "terlihat" manfaatnya. Sebenarnya, pendidikan sendiri merupakan investasi jangka panjang. Untuk perempuan, jangkanya jadi lebih panjang lagi, hehe. Seorang perempuan, nantinya akan menjadi seorang ibu. Secara alamiah, yang terjadi seperti itu. Ibu-lah yang akan mendidik anak-anaknya. Jika perempuan sebagai ibu pintar dalam ilmu Al-Qur'an, hadits, terus juga di sekolah dan kuliah nilainya bagus-bagus (hehe), pasti akan lebih bijak dalam mendidik anak-anaknya. Tidak ada yang namanya anak dibunuh atau disiksa orangtuanya seperti yang banyak diberitakan akhir-akhir ini di media. Naudzubillah min dzalik. <br />
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Orangtua yang cerdas, akan menghasilkan anak yg cerdas. Begitu seterusnya. Sehingga beberapa generasi akan menjadi cerdas, dan tentunya mampu berkontribusi dalam menciptakan masyarakat yang madani.<br />
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Jadi, buat para perempuan dan Muslimah, jangan ragu kalau mau belajar. Dijamin nggak bakal rugi, malah banyak untungnya, dunia dan akhirat, InsyaAllah. Apalagi kalau nanti anak kita jadinya pinter dan shalih dan mendoakan kita, akan terus kita bawa amalnya meski kita sudah dalam kubur.<br />
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<i>End of Part 1. Part 2-nya, nanti dibikin kalo Wichi udah pinter ngomongin masalah ini, biar agak serius gitu :)</i>Wichihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07237521698788757335noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643686971973788878.post-71667892244918607082010-02-02T17:45:00.000+07:002010-02-02T17:57:51.075+07:00How الله Values Women<span>I believe that any Muslim, whether man or woman, are just as noble. But in Islam, there are also differences between a man and a woman. These differences does not mean one is lesser than the other, or one is higher than the other. The differences are there to make men and women complement each other, where one is lacking, the other one has the piece to make a whole.</span><br />
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<span>Even then, women sometimes feel downgraded, and I do feel that there are societies that do not value women as they should. <b>But we should use the word "value" carefully.</b> According to whose values are we judging these discriminations?? If we use </span><span style="font-weight: bold;">الله</span><span>'s values, we will learn that He is the Ever Just, Al-Adli. Men are created the way they are, because they have to be responsible for a lot of things, so Alloh gave him the "strength" and" tools" to make him able to handle those big burdens:</span><br />
<ol><li><span>An unmarried man is responsible for his own sins if he has reached adulthood (<i>baligh</i>), whereas for a woman who is not yet married, the father is responsible for her sins.</span></li>
<li><span>A married man will be responsible for his own sins and the sins of his wife, his unmarried daughter and his son if he has not reached adulthood (<i>baligh</i>).</span></li>
<li><span>A man is responsible for his mother and if he does not take the responsibility, he is committing a sin, especially for the oldest son. This does not apply for the daughter, a woman just need to obwy her husband. When a wife commits an act of good, she receives rewards, but if she commits evil, the sin is taken by her husband.</span></li>
<li><span>A man is obliged to provide for his wife, if the wife aids him in earning for their living, the husband has no right to touch his wife's earnings without her consent (whereas the wife has every right for the husband's earnings)</span></li>
<li><span>On the day of Judgment, the men will be asked of how he is responsible for 4 women: his wife, his mother, his daughters and his sisters.</span></li>
<li><span>Men are obliged to go do <i>jihad fisabilillah.</i></span></li>
</ol><span>Whereas for women, her roles and tasks are different, but that does not mean she is "lesser" than men:</span><br />
<ol><li><span>A woman must be obedient to her husband, but men are obliged to obey his mother 3 times more than to his father. And isn't a mother a woman?</span></li>
<li><span>Women receive less inheritance than men, but the inheritance become solely her right and she is not obliged to share with her husband. Whereas for men, although he receives more part of the inheritance, but he must use that inheritance to provide for his wife and children.</span></li>
<li><span>Women painfully carry her children and give birth to them, but when she is giving birth, all of </span><span style="font-weight: bold;">الله</span><span>'s creatures in this earth and the angels pray for her, and if a woman dies while giving birth, her death is syahid and her sins forgiven (small sins).</span></li>
<li><span>The responsibility of a woman is borne by 4 men: her husband, her father, her sons and her brothers.</span></li>
<li><span>A woman may enter heaven from which door she wishes, given she does 5 daily prayers, Ramadhan fasting, obedient to her husband, and maintain her honour and dignity.</span></li>
<li><span>A woman who is obedient to her husband and successfully carry her responsibility to Alloh will receive the reward in the same amount like that who does<i> jihad fisabilillah</i>, without having to use any weapon. </span></li>
</ol><span>Yes, I do believe there are discriminations for women. Although that exists in <i>all</i> societies and<b> it is not exclusive to Islam.</b> In fact, Islam is a religion who values women more, look at all the ayat and hadits that refer only to women, or how to treat women. If there are inconsistencies in how Muslims treat women, it is not because of the religion, it isdue to the people trying to practice the <i>dien</i>. It is because some people do not understand, and see things from a limited perspective. Humans are created with limitations, it is because of that, that we must keep learning to find the straight path that leads to </span><span style="font-weight: bold;">الله</span><span>through His Light, the Qur'an, and through the teachings of our Prophet Rasulullah SAW.</span><br />
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<span><i>*The list is adapted from this <a href="http://huriyah.blog.friendster.com/2007/04/betapa-alloh-sangat-sayang-pada-wanita">blog</a>.</i></span>Wichihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07237521698788757335noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643686971973788878.post-36462029598122319342010-01-27T19:33:00.000+07:002010-01-27T19:40:04.223+07:00Signs of Happiness<i><b>Entry taken from my old blog:</b><br />
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Today I went to Pengajian Bulanan and Annual General Meeting of Indonesian Islamic Society of Brisbane (IISB). The ustadz was Romzi Ali from Sydney, who talked about <span style="font-weight: bold;">Signs of Happiness<span style="font-style: italic;"> (Tanda-tanda Kebahagiaan</span>)<span style="font-style: italic;">. </span></span>I will write what he talked about, so that I don't forget.. and passing the knowledge to others (hopefully) brings <span style="font-style: italic;">amal shaleh</span>..amin! <img alt="sengihnampakgigi" class="emoticon" src="http://us.i1.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/4.gif" title="sengihnampakgigi" /><br />
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He told of Ibnu Abbas ra. (one of Allah's Apostle who was given the gift of memorising the Qur'an at the age of 9, and was specially prayed for by Prophet Muhammad PBUH), who was once asked by the Tabi'in (the generation after the death of Prophet Muhammad PBUH) what is meant by happiness. He answered that there are 7 signs<span style="color: #999999;"> <span style="color: #666666;">(great things comes in 3s.. or 7s.. </span></span><span style="color: #666666; font-style: italic;">hehe --ga penting deh chi..)</span>:<br />
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<ol><li><span style="font-weight: bold;">QALBUN SYAAKIRUUN</span>: A heart that is always grateful <span style="font-weight: bold;">to الله</span>, and qana'ah, feeling enough with small things. Well, I see it as feeling enough with what we have, whether it is a lot or barely anything, since it is human nature that we will never feel enough, regardless of how much we have. Ustadz Romzi described if we have $500, we feel enough spending $300, but if we have $700, then we feel we must spend $500 and $300 would be felt insufficient, and so on. Kalo Indonesianya sih.. qana'ah = bahagia apa adanya ;)</li>
<li><span style="font-weight: bold;">AL AZWAJU SHALIHAH</span>: <span style="color: #666666;">(Wichi's heart goes "WAAAA!!!" trus mupeng deh, hehe, didn't realise this would come second on the list, caught me off guard there and made me feel all butterfly-in-the-stomach </span><img alt="love" class="emoticon" src="http://us.i1.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/8.gif" style="color: #666666;" title="love" /><span style="color: #666666;">)</span> This means: a shaleh/pious partner (husband/wife). Well, enough of the wonderings and the blushing... <img alt="malu" class="emoticon" src="http://us.i1.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/9.gif" title="malu" /> The Ustadz said there is an example in Q.S.At-Tahrim: 10-12 of a shaleh wife but kafir husband (Pharaoh and his wife), a shaleh husband but a kafir wife (Prophets Noah/Nuh as.and Lot/Luth as. and their wives), and a shaleh family all the way, such as that of Maryam and her family (the Ali-Imran family). Wouldn't we all want to be like Maryam... having generations before and after of shaleh families... <img alt="rindu" class="emoticon" src="http://us.i1.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/105.gif" title="rindu" /> As Wichi continues to wander and blush, the Ustadz went on of how the men are given the heavy burden of being responsible for their role as imam of the family... they cannot go anywhere in the Day of Judgment (i.e. up to heaven) if their family, especially their wives account them for being an irresponsible imam. The quality of responsibility here is of course according to<span style="font-weight: bold;"> الله</span> and not according to us (man <span style="font-style: italic;">or</span> woman!). So if there is the debate of Islam downgrading women, we must question what is the quality of the downgrading, according to whose values? Because in the end <span style="font-weight: bold;">الله</span>'s values are what count above everything else... <span style="color: #666666;">And yes.. Wichi continues to wander and blush and sigh dreamily... </span><img alt="rindu" class="emoticon" src="http://us.i1.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/105.gif" style="color: #666666;" title="rindu" /><img alt="malu" class="emoticon" src="http://us.i1.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/9.gif" style="color: #666666;" title="malu" /><span style="color: #666666;">....</span></li>
<li><span style="font-weight: bold;">AL AULADUN ABRAR:</span> Yes, a <span style="font-weight: bold;">shaleh/abrar</span> child. We know the power of the prayer of a shaleh child, the Prophet PBUH in a hadith stated that there are three good deeds that will not die with a person after he dies, amal jariyah, useful knowledge, and the prayer of a pious child (I think it was Sahih Bukhari/Muslim).... The Prophet PBUH also in another hadith stated that taking care of parents in a form of jihad in itself.. Subhanallah... <span style="color: #666666;">(Another emotional moment as Wichi's mind wanders off to her parents... miss them.. huhuhu... </span><img alt="cry" class="emoticon" height="15" src="http://wolverinex02.googlepages.com/icon_cry.gif" style="color: #666666;" title="cry" width="15" /><span style="color: #666666;">)</span></li>
<li><span style="font-weight: bold;">ALBIATU SHALIHAH</span>: <span style="font-weight: bold;">A conducive environment for our piety</span>. Indeed, Wichi really feels for this. I get carried away easily, I must stay in an environment that nurtures my<span style="font-style: italic;"> iman</span> otherwise I'm really vulnerable to bad things<span style="color: #666666;"> </span><span style="color: silver;"><span style="color: #666666;">(haha! bad, bad excuse...)</span> </span>The Ustadz spoke of how we should leave a country if the environment is doing bad things to our own iman, such was the case of the Prophet PBUH's hijrah from Makkah to Madinah.</li>
<li><span style="font-weight: bold;">ALMALUL HALAL: </span>Owning halal wealth. We don't need much wealth, as long as it is halal. Halal not just of what we get, but what we use it for. Halal not for just material things, but how we use it, and even for food. There was a saying (forgot if it was hadith or not) pinned on the mushalla of my old school in Chemistry ITB<span style="color: #666666;"> (how old Chi.. baru 1 tahun ninggalin Kimia juga..sok2an.. hehe </span><img alt="jelir" class="emoticon" src="http://us.i1.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/10.gif" style="color: #666666;" title="jelir" /><span style="color: #666666;">)</span> that said along the lines of what the Ustadz was saying: <span style="font-weight: bold;">if you are in doubt, leave it!</span> This is the case especially for food. Here in Australia it's always the case of doubting if the food we eat is halal, even if it has a halal sign, doesn't mean it is!! Scary huh.. was thinking of turning vegetarian just to be safe, hehe.<span style="font-weight: bold;"> Because anything that is doubtful to you is closer to being haram</span>... It's important to maintain the halal-ness<span style="color: #666666;"> (Wichi's new word!!) </span>of everything around you... there was a hadith telling a story of how someone kept praying to the maximum extent but was not being granted, because his food and earnings are haram!</li>
<li><span style="font-weight: bold;">TAFAKUH FI DIEN: </span>The <span style="font-weight: bold;">chance of learning</span>.. of getting knowledge. The ustadz said there are three important things a Muslim should learn first: 1. <span style="font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">ma'rifatullah</span>: learn Allah, 2. <span style="font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">ma'rifaturrasul:</span> learn of the Rasul PBUH, 3. <span style="font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">ma'rifatul dien</span>: learn the religion (Islam)... The more we learn, the more we know and understand, the more we will love الله and the more our heart is filled with<span style="font-weight: bold;"> الله</span>'s NUR (light). <span style="color: #666666;">Subhanallah...</span></li>
<li><span style="font-weight: bold;">UMUR BARAKAH: </span>The<span style="font-weight: bold;"> time we spend, is a fruitful and blessed</span> one. I was reminded of a training where we were given a piece of paper, and divide the paper into 10 pieces. 1 block represent 10 years of our lives. We cut off the end according to our life expectancy (so 3 pieces off, if we were to live to 70 years), then we cut off the other end according to our age because it has gone past. Most of the people were left with just one small piece of paper! Even though mine was a bit bigger (since I was younger than most people there) it did get me thinking.. <span style="font-style: italic;">wow, my life is only this left!!</span> How can I make use of it?? Yes, it is important that the time we spend we don't regret, because we have filled it with amal shaleh and total devotion to<span style="font-weight: bold;"> الله</span>...</li>
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<span style="font-style: italic;">(Based on Romzi Ali in the Pengajian Bulanan and AGM IISB Brisbane, Australia, Aug 23, 2008 with reference to <a href="http://echo81.multiply.com/journal/item/2/7_Indikator_Kebahagiaan_Dunia">7 Indikator Kebahagiaan Dunia</a>, adapted freely by Wichitra Yasya) </span>Wichihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07237521698788757335noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643686971973788878.post-88366253071219048002010-01-27T15:06:00.000+07:002010-01-27T15:06:21.860+07:00Yvonne Ridley - How I Came to Love the Veil<table class="contentpaneopen"><tbody>
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<tr> <td class="createdate" colspan="2" valign="top"><i>Tuesday, 31 October 2006 </i><br />
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<tr> <td colspan="2" valign="top"><blockquote class="pullquote">I used to look at veiled women as quiet, oppressed creatures and now I look at them as multi-skilled, multi-talented, resilient women whose brand of sisterhood makes Western feminism pale into insignificance.<br />
</blockquote>POLITICIANS AND JOURNALISTS just love to write about the oppression of women in Islam ... without even talking to the females beneath the veil.<br />
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They simply have no idea how Muslim women are protected and respected within the Islamic framework which was built more than 1400 years ago.<br />
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Yet, by writing about cultural issues like child brides, female circumcision, honor killings and forced marriages they wrongly believe they are coming from a point of knowledge.<br />
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And I am sick of Saudi Arabia being cited as an example of how women are subjigated in a country where they are banned from driving.<br />
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The issues above have simply nothing to do with Islam yet they still write and talk about them with an arrogant air of authority while wrongly blaming Islam. Please do not confuse cultural behavior with Islam.<br />
I was asked to write about how Islam allows men to beat their wives. Sorry, not true. Yes, I'm sure critics of Islam will quote random Qur'anic verses or ahadith but all are usually taken out of context. If a man does raise a finger to his wife, he is not allowed to leave a mark on her body ... this is another way of the Qur'an saying; "Don't beat your wife, stupid".<br />
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Now let's take a glance at some really interesting statistics, hmm. I can almost hear the words pot, kettle, black. According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, four million American women experience a serious assault by a partner during an average 12-month period.<br />
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On the average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands and boyfriends every day . . . that is nearly 5,500 women battered to death since 9/11.<br />
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Some might say that is a shocking indictment on such a civilized society, but before I sound too smug, I would say that violence against women is a global issue. Violent men do not come in any particular religious or cultural category. The reality is that one out of three women around the world has been beaten, coerced into sex or otherwise abused during her lifetime. Violence against women transcends religion, wealth, class, skin color and culture.<br />
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However, until Islam came on the scene women were treated as inferior beings. In fact we women still have a problem in the West where men think they are superior. This is reflected in our promotion and wages structure right across the spectrum from cleaners to career women who make it into the boardroom.<br />
Western women are still treated as commodities, where sexual slavery is on the rise, disguised under marketing euphemisms, where womens’ bodies are traded throughout the advertising world. As mentioned before, this is a society where rape, sexual assault, and violence on women is commonplace, a society where the equality between men and women is an illusion, a society where a womens’ power or influence is usually only related to the size of her breasts.<br />
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I used to look at veiled women as quiet, oppressed creatures and now I look at them as multi-skilled, multi-talented, resilient women whose brand of sisterhood makes Western feminism pale into insignificance. My views changed after the truly terrifying experience of being arrested by the Taleban for sneaking into Afghanistan in September 2001 wearing the bhurka.<br />
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During my 10-day captivity I struck a deal that if they let me go I would read the Quran and study Islam. Against all the odds, it worked and I was released. In return I kept my word but as a journalist covering the Middle East I realized I needed to expand my knowledge of a religion which was clearly a way of life.<br />
And no. I'm not a victim of Stockholm Syndrome. To be a victim you have to bond with your captors. During my imprisonment I spat, swore, cursed and abused my jailers as well as refusing their food and going on hunger strike. I don't know who was happier when I was released - them or me!<br />
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Reading the Quran was, I thought, going to be a very simple academic exercise. I was stunned to discover that ut clearly stated women are equal in spirituality, education and worth. A woman’s gift for child birth and child-rearing is very much recognised as a quality and attribute. Muslim women say with pride they are homemakers and housewives.<br />
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Furthermore The Prophet (pbuh) said that the most important person in the home was The Mother, The Mother, The Mother. In fact he also said that heaven lies at the feet of the mother. How many women make it into the top 100 power lists for simply being a "great mother"?<br />
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With Islam choosing to remain at home and raise children takes on a new dignity and respect in my eyes, similar to those sisters among us who choose to go out to work and have careers and professions.<br />
I then began looking at inheritance, tax, property and divorce laws. This is where Hollywood divorce lawyers probably get their inspiration from. For instance the woman gets to keep what she earns and owns while the man has to stump up half his worth.<br />
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Isn’t it funny the way the tabloid media gets very excited over the prospect of some pop or film stars pre-nuptial wedding agreement? Muslim women have had wedding contracts from day one. They can choose if they want to work or not and anything they earn is theirs to spend while the husband has to pay for all the household bills and the upkeep of his family.<br />
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Just about everything that feminists strived for in the 70s was already available to Muslim women 1400 years ago.<br />
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As I said, Islam dignifies and brings respect to motherhood and being a wife. If you want to stay at home, stay at home. It is a great honor to be a home maker and the first educater of your children.<br />
But equally, the Quran states if you want to work, then work. Be a career woman, learn a profession become a politician. Be what you want to be and excel in what you do as a Muslim because everything you do is in praise of Allah (swt).<br />
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There is an excessive, almost irritating concentration or focus on the issue of Muslim womens’ dress particularly by men (both Muslim and non-Muslim).<br />
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Yes, it is an obligation for Muslim women to dress modestly but, in addition, there are many other important issues which concern Muslim women today.<br />
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And yet everyone obsesses over the hijab. Look, it is part of my business suit. This tells you I am a Muslim and therefore I expect to be treated with respect.<br />
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Can you imagine if someone told a Wall Street executive or Washington banker to put on a t-shirt and jeans? He would tell you his business suit defines him during work hours, marks him out to be treated seriously.<br />
And yet in Britain we have had the former Foreign Secretary Jack Straw describing the nikab - the face veil revealing only the eyes - as an unwelcome barrier. When, oh when, will men learn to keep their mouths shut over a woman's wardrobe?<br />
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We also had Government Ministers Gordon Brown and John Reid express disparaging remarks about the nikab - both these men come from over the Scottish Borders where men wear skirts!!<br />
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Then we had a series of other parliamentarians enter the fray describing the nikab as a barrier for communication. What a load of nonsense. If this was the case can anyone explain to me why cell phones, landlines, emails, text messaging and fax machines are in daily use? Who listens to the radio? No one switches off the wireless because they can not see the face of the presenter.<br />
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The majority of sisters I know who choose to wear the nikab are actually white, Western reverts who no longer want the unwelcome attention of those few leering men who will try and confront females and launch into inappropriate behavior. Mind you, there are a couple of London sisters I know who say they wear the nikab at anti-war marches because they can't stand the smell of spliffs.<br />
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I am afraid Islamophobia has become the last refuge of the racist scoundrel. But the cowardly, chauvinistic attacks launched - largely by men - is unacceptable to Muslimahs as well as their secular, female sisters from the left.<br />
I was a feminist for many years and now, as an Islamic feminist, I still promote womens' rights. The only difference is Muslim feminists are more radical than their secular counterparts. We all hate those ghastly beauty pageants, and tried to stop laughing when the emergence of Miss Afghanistan in bikini was hailed as a giant leap for women's liberation in Afghanistan.<br />
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I've been back to Afghanistan many times and I can tell you there are no career women emerging from the rubble in Kabul. My Afghan sisters say they wish the West would drop its obsession with the bhurka. "Don't try turning me into a career woman, get my husband a job first. Show me how I can send my children to school without fear of them being kidnapped. Give me security and bread on the table," one sister told me.<br />
Young feminist Muslimahs see the hijab and the nikab as political symbols as well as a religious requirement. Some say it is their way of showing the world they reject the excesses of Western lifestyles such as binge drinking, casual sex, drug-taking etc.<br />
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Superiority in Islam is accomplished through piety, not beauty, wealth, power, position or sex. <br />
Now you tell me what is more liberating. Being judged on the length of your skirt and the size of your cosmetically enhanced breasts, or being judged on your character, mind and intelligence?<br />
Glossy magazines tell us as women that unless we are tall, slim and beautiful we will be unloved and unwanted. The pressure on teenage magazine readers to have a boyfriend is almost obscene.<br />
Islam tells me that I have a right to an education and it is my duty to go out and seek knowledge whether I am single or married.<br />
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No where in the framework of Islam are we told as women that we must do washing, cleaning or cooking for men - but it is not just Muslim men who need to re-evaluate women in their home. Check out this 1992 exert from a Pat Robertson speech revealing his views on empowered women. And then you tell me who is civilized and who is not.<br />
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He said: "FEMINISM ENCOURAGES WOMEN TO LEAVE THEIR HUSBANDS, KILL THEIR CHILDREN, PRACTICE WITCHCRAFT, DESTROY CAPITALISM AND BECOME LESBIANS".<br />
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Here is an American man living in a pre-Islamic age who needs to modernize and civilize. People like him are wearing a veil and we need to tear that veil of bigotry away so people can see Islam for what it is.<br />
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<i>Yvonne Ridley is a British broadcaster who reverted to Islam after being captured by the Taliban. Find out more about her in her <a href="http://yvonneridley.org/">website</a>.</i> <br />
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</tbody></table>Wichihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07237521698788757335noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643686971973788878.post-36959287394599750222010-01-27T14:38:00.000+07:002010-01-27T19:33:27.684+07:00About This Blog<i>In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.</i><br />
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This blog is a personal collection of a girl in her efforts to find the meaning of life through her identity as a Muslim woman. It is a lifetime journey of spirituality and full-time living. Through articles she found while browsing, the books that she read, the movies and documentaries she's watched, the sermons she'd heard, she rationalises and absorbs with her mind and her heart.<br />
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So this is the collection of her journey. To preserve the things she'd learnt, so that she might refer back to it again when she's lost or she has forgotten, and to educate her future children. It also chronicles her efforts, her opinions in trying to fathom the things she had learnt to be a good Muslimah. And also, I present this blog to <b>you</b>, dear reader, to keep inspiring you to be close to Him, Allah SWT, the Lord of the Worlds.<br />
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May this blog fulfil its purpose. <i>Amin ya rabbal 'alamin</i>.Wichihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07237521698788757335noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2643686971973788878.post-9929363975635832802010-01-26T23:21:00.000+07:002010-01-27T19:34:09.615+07:00Surat Untuk AnakkuBismillahirrahmanirrahim<br /><br />Anakku,<br />Saat aku menulis surat ini, aku sedang memikirkan dirimu. Aku cemas memikirkan kelak dunia macam apa yang harus engkau hadapi. Aku sekarang seorang gadis, hanya bisa mempersiapkan diri supaya engkau bisa menghadapi dunia lebih baik dari yang aku alami.<br /><br />Anakku,<br />Aku akan menjadi wanita yang paling bahagia saat engkau lahir di dunia, karena Allah telah menitipkan padaku suatu amanah yang akan kuemban dengan seluruh kemampuan yang aku miliki. Dari sekarang, sebelum engkau lahir, aku berdoa agar kelak engkau menjadi <span style="font-style: italic;">rahmatan lil ‘alamin</span>, dan setiap sisi jauh lebih baik dari diriku.<br /><br />Anakku,<br />Akan kulakukan segalanya untuk bisa mengantarmu menjadi anak yang shalih, tiada yang kuminta dari dirimu agar engkau senantiasa menjaga dirimu dan imanmu. Ingatlah anakku, meskipun diriku sangat menyayangimu, Allah jauh lebih mengasihimu. Jangan pernah melupakanNya apalagi mengingkariNya. Dan saat aku tidak ada, saat segalanya telah terenggut darimu dan dunia mengucilkanmu, ingat ada satu yang tidak bisa mereka ambil darimu: imanmu. Mereka para pencinta dunia bisa merampas segalanya darimu, dari yang terlihat maupun yang tidak terlihat. Namun imanmu, dan keteguhan yang ada di dalam hatimu, adalah sesuatu yang tidak pernah bisa mereka ambil. Maka jagalah imanmu, anakku, jagalah iman dan hatimu, agar tetap suci, agar tetap dekat dan merindu pada Allah swt. InsyaAllah, Allah pun akan menjagamu tetap kepadaNya.<br /><br />Anakku,<br />Saat ini PR-ku masih banyak. Masih banyak buku, kitab dan artikel yang harus kupelajari, majlis yang harus kudatangi, taushiah yang harus kudengar, dan pengalaman hidupku dan orang lain yang harus kuambil hikmahnya… agar aku bisa pantas menjadi ibumu. Aku ingin menjadi ibu yang bisa mendidikmu, mengajarkan kepadamu tentang hakikatmu sebagai manusia. Aku ingin engkau mengenal Penciptamu dan kekasihNya Rasulullah saw. Pelajari, renungkan, dan jalanilah takdirmu sebagai khalifah di bumi ini, yang menyuruh kepada kebaikan dan mencegah kemungkaran, serta melakukan perbaikan terhadap segala kerusakan yang telah terjadi. Pelajari, renungkan dan jalanilah dengan berpedoman kepada Al-Qur’an dan hadits. Dalam perjalananmu mencari kebenaran, engkau akan dihadapkan pada persimpangan. Engkau akan mengalami batasan-batasan dalam memaknai Kitabullah dan hadits-hadits. Namun tetaplah berpegang pada keyakinan bahwa itulah yang datang dari Allah, tetaplah berdoa agar ditunjukkan yang <span style="font-style: italic;">haq </span>itu <span style="font-style: italic;">haq</span>, dan yang <span style="font-style: italic;">bathil </span>itu <span style="font-style: italic;">bathil</span>.<br /><br />Anakku,<br />Persimpangan akan selalu engkau temui nanti. Manusia pada dasarnya bersifat lemah, dengan iman yang bisa naik dan bisa turun. Maka dari itu berdoalah selalu, berdoalah pada Yang Rahman, Sang Maha Pembolak-balik Hati, agar hatimu tetap teguh berpegang pada jalan Allah. Berdoalah agar selalu diberi petunjuk. Tetaplah istiqamah.<br /><br />Anakku,<br />Aku berpesan agar engkau menjadi orang yang pengasih. Kasihilah semua saudaramu dan bantulah mereka dengan apa yang kau punya. Ingatlah selalu kepada anak yatim, santuni mereka, meskipun sedikit, dan senantiasa doakan mereka.<br />Kepada putriku aku khusus berpesan, jadilah perempuan yang pengasih namun tetap berpendirian. Engkau sebagai wanita adalah perhiasan, maka dari itu jagalah dirimu agar tetap indah dan bersinar dengan cahaya iman. Engkau mungkin bertanya mengapa dunia tidak adil bagimu, ketahuilah, jalan Islam yang kau pilih adalah tapak yang paling memuliakan dirimu. Pelajarilah itu, putri cantikku, dan engkau pun akan mengerti.<br />Kepada putraku aku khusus berpesan, agar menyayangi kami para perempuan. Kelembutan kami, balaslah dengan kelembutanmu juga. Jangan pernah bersikap kasar terhadap kami. Jangan pernah menganggap kami tidak pantas akan hak-hak tertentu apalagi menindas kami. Telah jelas dituangkan dalam kitabNya bahwa perempuan dan laki-laki ada fitrahnya masing-masing. Karena itu, salinglah menghormati satu sama lain, jangan saling menyakiti.<br /><br />Anakku,<br />Dunia tidak akan mudah kepadamu nanti. Umat kita terpecah-belah, ditindas dan dizhalimi. Engka akan menghadapi serangan yang bertubi-tubi dari segala sisi, baik yang jelas maupun yang bersembunyi. Setan tidak akan menyerah, anakku. Namun ia juga telah berjanji, bahwa pengaruhnya tidak akan bisa menggerakkan hati yang berserah diri kepada Allah. Jadi anakku, berhati-hatilah terhadap mereka yang ingin melenakanmu dengan nikmat dunia. Berhati-hatilah terhadap mereka yang melecehkan agamamu. Berdoalah untuk kedamaian, sebagai fitrah kita sebagai Muslim, karena agama kita adalah damai. Berjuanglah dengan bijak untuk menegakkan tiang agamamu. Aku tidak meminta banyak, hanya mulai dari yang kecil dan dari hati yang bersungguh-sungguh.<br /><br />Anakku,<br />Memang besar harapanmu pada dirimu. Namun tiada beda dari harapan setiap orang tua, agar anaknya bisa lebih baik darinya. Aku berdoa semoga Allah senantiasa mencurahkan rahmatNya kepadamu, mendekatkanmu kepada kebaikan, dan memberkahimu dengan iman dan takwa. Semoga Allah mengabulkan doaku. Amin ya rabbal 'alamin<br /><br />Jakarta, 26 January 2010 22:35PMWichihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07237521698788757335noreply@blogger.com0